Coping with uncertainty and waiting
Hi everyone, I'm 33 and have just had a double mastectomy for what they think is high grade, bilateral dcis. I chose mastectomy over lumpectomy/radio. I'm struggling emotionally less with the ma...
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Hi Jennifer,
Theres such alot of great advice from these wonderful ladies. I have a theory that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it. This is an incredibly hard journey, so dont ever let anyone downplay a single thought or emotion you have. We all get through the only way we know how to, what works for one isn't for someone else. The beauty of all being different. I honestly dont feel you ever really accept it, I think we just get very good at being proactive in our decisions and treatments and marking things off our lists. Ive just dealt with a recurrence that came back at the 4yr mark, completely devastating....and so my emotions are very different to first diagnosis. This has been a much harder reality, 9 months post chemo and facing a mastectomy early next year as preventative. I never looked back after treatment now 5yrs ago....but now there is a fear deep down if this is the end or is there more to come. There are absolutely horrible days! but there are equally wonderful days...and I find now as I feel better and better that the more involved I get in my life and enjoy it, the less I think about the future. It is so key...the most important thing I could say to you is, allow yourself to feel, honor yourself and make YOU the priority. This really seemed the time for me to finally do so...after always putting me last! I feel sad a little that its taken this double journey to make myself a priority and put me above everything and everyone. But in a strange way, Ive found myself more than ever...and I just love me through this everyday, my own self nurturer I guess...especially when I feel you only have yourself. Breast Care nurse is a must!!! wonderful wonderful and so helpful! it took me a year to go to mine and I burst!!!! Take care of you..know you are doing the absolute best you can and 'You are enough'
Hugs Melinda xo
Theres such alot of great advice from these wonderful ladies. I have a theory that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it. This is an incredibly hard journey, so dont ever let anyone downplay a single thought or emotion you have. We all get through the only way we know how to, what works for one isn't for someone else. The beauty of all being different. I honestly dont feel you ever really accept it, I think we just get very good at being proactive in our decisions and treatments and marking things off our lists. Ive just dealt with a recurrence that came back at the 4yr mark, completely devastating....and so my emotions are very different to first diagnosis. This has been a much harder reality, 9 months post chemo and facing a mastectomy early next year as preventative. I never looked back after treatment now 5yrs ago....but now there is a fear deep down if this is the end or is there more to come. There are absolutely horrible days! but there are equally wonderful days...and I find now as I feel better and better that the more involved I get in my life and enjoy it, the less I think about the future. It is so key...the most important thing I could say to you is, allow yourself to feel, honor yourself and make YOU the priority. This really seemed the time for me to finally do so...after always putting me last! I feel sad a little that its taken this double journey to make myself a priority and put me above everything and everyone. But in a strange way, Ive found myself more than ever...and I just love me through this everyday, my own self nurturer I guess...especially when I feel you only have yourself. Breast Care nurse is a must!!! wonderful wonderful and so helpful! it took me a year to go to mine and I burst!!!! Take care of you..know you are doing the absolute best you can and 'You are enough'
Hugs Melinda xo