After reading your story,I don't really know what to say,except welcome:)What a rough time your family has had.I had a mastectomy 9weeks ago,and just having chemo now.I chose not to have reconstruction,as my breast/breasts are not large.I am happy with my choice,as it is not even noticeable,and I just wanted to get on with it as soon as I could.All the best with your surgery,and please jump on here any time to let us all know how you are doing.I am sure many other ladies will be here soon to say hi.Cheers Robyn.xox