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What helps you when you are down or stressed
Hey Ladies,
Just thought I would put it out there.........you know me. There seems to be quite a few posts lately stating how people are depressed, sad, lonely, upset, stressed and all the other feelings and emotions we have to deal with in our lives either from just general life or because of the dreaded breast cancer.
I thought I would start by saying I have been going through an ongoing tough time now for a couple of years, with one thing or another and it was while I was doing my six weeks of hyperbaric chamber every day that I had time to think. I decided I needed to do something to try and turn my life around.
I have started what some people call a "visualisation board" but mine isn't so much 'what I want from life' - mine is more of 'what should I be grateful, happy, feeling lucky and all those things that we need to feel to get through every day To feel good and happy.
I have photos of all my loved ones starting with my husband, my BCNA beastie, my daughter and precious grandaughter and other special people in my life. I have things that make me smile, I have words of encouragement of which one is very special as it is a pink sister picture with "Michele Be Strong" which I definitely needed every single day I did the hyperbaric. I have to thank Donna from Dubbo for this one.
Some of the quotes are things like:
- "Every day in every way I am getting better and better" "
- "I have decided to be happy because it is good for my health"
- "Be someone you want to be around"
I really find this helps me get through my days every day. I also have one very special verse that Janey235 wrote for me that I cherish and I make sure I read it every day.
I have started Yoga once a week and I try to Meditate most days but the hardest part with that is not falling asleep.....hahahahaha
I hope this helps and hopefully I have opened the path for other Ladies to come forward with what they do to help themselves get through their bad, sad and stressful days. In return we can maybe help some of our other pink sisters that are doing it tough.
Lots of love today, tomorrow and always,
Mich
xoxoxoxooxoxoxox
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Hello huny and I am so glad you have found us. I apologise I not been on here earlier but my computer was misbehaving badly as it does for last couple of days.
I can so relate to where you are at. It is such a frustrating time. Where do you live huny? You will be able to find groups in your area by looking on the right side of the main BCNA page and typing in your area. If no success with that contact BCNA direct and they will either put you in contact with someone or have someone call you. There is always someone out there wantiing to help and support you as I want to do right now.
You are right in saying family and husbands "just don't get it"!!!! It is such a common phrase you will hear from any of your pink sisters going through BC.
I am glad you have found this post to hopefully cheer you up but also give you some ideas of what you can do when you are feeling low. I know how hard it is to lift yourself up when you are feeling so down but hopefully some of these things will help.
I hope you have a good GP you can turn to if you have any concerns. Plus a breast care nurse allocated to you following your surgery. Use them, call on them whenever you need and most importantly look after number one because at this time unfortunately it is all about you.
I am not sure if you have or know how to but make sure you put up any new post if there are things that are bothering you on here and the girls will come to your rescue with replys. To post a new post. Go into your own profile, click on blog which is up the top and then it will come up and you can create a post which will then show up on the main online page and you will receive alerts of replies from the girls.
Also if you have a question there is a search tab on the top Right hand side of the main page as well.
I hope you have received your"My Journey Kit" already through BCNA but if not you can order it down the bottom of this page under resources and you should receive it within the week if Australia Post on schedule.
I hope I have helped you a little. Just remember I am hear for you, I know exactly where you are coming from, I know how it feels to be on that roller coaster ride and so do all of us on this site.
It is scary but just remember so many of us have been through what you are going through and have come out the other side to be able to sit here and type a reply to you.
Luv always, Mich xoxoxoxo
- Hi.i was diagnosed just before my birthday in March with invasive lobula carcinoma. it was caught on mammogram and is very small. my operation is Monday 28th April.as you would know I will have the Sentinel node removed for testing. I am being positive that all will go well but have moments of cours. I have many well wishers but no one person that wants to be there for me except for my family which I am grateful for. my husband is really good but its hard for men. I hope everyone is fairing well and good wishes to you all.
Thanks Daina,that's going straight into my little book of inspirations that I keep. Tonya xx
Mich, this is a good topic.
My thinking is - talk it out.
Find whatever way, even go out to find a stranger to say out what's thought. I sometimes will over thinking and fell into anxiety trap., I want to save myself, I hate people worry me, so I usually enlarge small lucky thing, like I sit down infront of TV with a cup tea. I told myself, so relax, so lucky, feeling so good,
I'll find something simply to treat myself very very good, so as to encourage myself to fight for life challenge. (Life is full of challenge)
I took a walk this morning, feeling so nice, I need to well ready for 7MAR chemo schedule, I told myself everything is ready, people around me sending me lover and care, the Medical team are all ready, Rosanna, what a u doing, SO I think, I have to well weapon myself, well ready meself to go for it (????)
sorry for the chinese wordings...............
Thanks for sharing
