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What helps you when you are down or stressed
Hey Ladies,
Just thought I would put it out there.........you know me. There seems to be quite a few posts lately stating how people are depressed, sad, lonely, upset, stressed and all the other feelings and emotions we have to deal with in our lives either from just general life or because of the dreaded breast cancer.
I thought I would start by saying I have been going through an ongoing tough time now for a couple of years, with one thing or another and it was while I was doing my six weeks of hyperbaric chamber every day that I had time to think. I decided I needed to do something to try and turn my life around.
I have started what some people call a "visualisation board" but mine isn't so much 'what I want from life' - mine is more of 'what should I be grateful, happy, feeling lucky and all those things that we need to feel to get through every day To feel good and happy.
I have photos of all my loved ones starting with my husband, my BCNA beastie, my daughter and precious grandaughter and other special people in my life. I have things that make me smile, I have words of encouragement of which one is very special as it is a pink sister picture with "Michele Be Strong" which I definitely needed every single day I did the hyperbaric. I have to thank Donna from Dubbo for this one.
Some of the quotes are things like:
- "Every day in every way I am getting better and better" "
- "I have decided to be happy because it is good for my health"
- "Be someone you want to be around"
I really find this helps me get through my days every day. I also have one very special verse that Janey235 wrote for me that I cherish and I make sure I read it every day.
I have started Yoga once a week and I try to Meditate most days but the hardest part with that is not falling asleep.....hahahahaha
I hope this helps and hopefully I have opened the path for other Ladies to come forward with what they do to help themselves get through their bad, sad and stressful days. In return we can maybe help some of our other pink sisters that are doing it tough.
Lots of love today, tomorrow and always,
Mich
xoxoxoxooxoxoxox
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Thanks Daina,that's going straight into my little book of inspirations that I keep. Tonya xx
Mich, this is a good topic.
My thinking is - talk it out.
Find whatever way, even go out to find a stranger to say out what's thought. I sometimes will over thinking and fell into anxiety trap., I want to save myself, I hate people worry me, so I usually enlarge small lucky thing, like I sit down infront of TV with a cup tea. I told myself, so relax, so lucky, feeling so good,
I'll find something simply to treat myself very very good, so as to encourage myself to fight for life challenge. (Life is full of challenge)
I took a walk this morning, feeling so nice, I need to well ready for 7MAR chemo schedule, I told myself everything is ready, people around me sending me lover and care, the Medical team are all ready, Rosanna, what a u doing, SO I think, I have to well weapon myself, well ready meself to go for it (????)
sorry for the chinese wordings...............
Thanks for sharing
Hi Sara, I feel so sorry to hear from your experience. May I say something to you. I am a Chinese background OZ living in here. I had Chinese friends and OZ friends and family here. I still hassle to talk to all my friends here about my caner, but just 4, and 2 of them were having that before. You had such a family around you, you gone through Chemo, you did something that I didn't aware, it's great effort and courage you've been done. I haven't had my chemo yet until 7March....I wonder what will happen on me.
I prepared the worse, and I believed side effect will happen on me. Sara, apart from cancer, we gone through a lot of difficulties and happiness in our life, when we look back, again, we didn't aware we pass through and work well, and at the end we sit down and smile to ourself - things happened, and I did it.
We had a lot of challenge, please don't fall into the trap, save yourself, if we only stand and star at the corner of the street, we never found the way out and was stuck. Look back, there are ways to come out, and lots of different channel, friends, family are at your back, they are all WITH you. On top, we are lucky here with all the pink sisters, we might not seeing each other faces, but we experienced the same, share the same, feel the same.
I am glad that I was the chosen one being diagonised (out of my 5 sisters and my mother), I am glad it happend here in Australia (finance free from living, and medications) I am glad I know English, that I could read from you and share with you.
Remember you had a lot of challenge before I beg you, and you overcome and fix it very well, and this time you will go through it, cancer is not scary but don't let it knock you down.
Thinking of you; hug you and love UUUU
Xoxo
Oh huny
let me tell u that we all luv u and don't mind if u hav a bad day or maybe just an hour here or there but that is all u r allowed.
think happy thoughts, read happy inspirations to help u get through just like the rest of us.
Don't forget huny we need u, u r our strength and a beautiful person and we luv u, not just what u do.
U know I luv u, that goes without saying, Mich xoxoxoxo
It continues to warm my heart when I read and see the amazing support you all give to each other. Hands down I think being the site administrator here is a pretty great job. Love and positive vibes out to you all. x
When I am feeling down and stressed I go to google images for inspiration.
This is todays one that is appropriate for me!
Fanx Elizebeth and Janey, I am doing fine don't u worry. I am up and at em and know that I am getting closer to that miracle. Hope you luvly ladies are also going well and got that beautiful smile on your dial.
Luv u guys, Mich xoxoxoox
I'm glad you are smiling again Mich. I hate to think of you being down. You lift so many of us up with your enthusiam for life and it's not fair that you are going through such a long and harrowing journey. Keep looking at your board full of lovely notices and know that you are thought of every day.
Lots of hugs to you Mich,
Love Janey xxx
- Mich...reading your blogs and kind responses helped me in my BC journey and I believe that Bowen is a great therapy so I have everything crossed that it brings you healing!! Luv and hugs Elizebeth xx
Hey Sue
It was soooo luvly to get to meet you at our Perth Womens get together.
I have heard about that meditation. Unfortunately it falls at the time I go to my fantastic Yoga in Gooseberry Hill. I need to look at going to yoga Monday mornings and come to the meditation. I bet it is fantastic.
Thanks for putting it out there.
Hope to catch up with you at the Next Perth Get Together.
Luv always, Mich xoxoxooxxo
Hi Sara, I had the same issues as you with my first psychologist, just did not seem to be able to help. I found a psychologist that her field is in helping cancer patients, wow what a difference she has made. I found her through the hospital where you have chemo. I did not have chemo myself.
One thing she taught me that has helped me when I start to get worried and think about it coming back and what may happen in the future is. Pick a time in the day say 4pm can be anytime and when you start to worry say its not 4pm yet can not think about it and most off the time it really works and by the time 4pm comes around have forgot about it. If it is still on your mind at that time allow yourself 10mins to think about it and then after that you push it aside till that time the following day.
Find something each day that makes you happy. Mine is spending time with my Grandchildren, do not have time to think about anything. They bring me so much joy.
Where do you live?. This cancer psychologist is in Newcastle.
Hope this helps.
Debbie
