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Mich_x
12 years agoMember
What helps you when you are down or stressed
Hey Ladies,
Just thought I would put it out there.........you know me. There seems to be quite a few posts lately stating how people are depressed, sad, lonely, upset, stressed and all the other feelings and emotions we have to deal with in our lives either from just general life or because of the dreaded breast cancer.
I thought I would start by saying I have been going through an ongoing tough time now for a couple of years, with one thing or another and it was while I was doing my six weeks of hyperbaric chamber every day that I had time to think. I decided I needed to do something to try and turn my life around.
I have started what some people call a "visualisation board" but mine isn't so much 'what I want from life' - mine is more of 'what should I be grateful, happy, feeling lucky and all those things that we need to feel to get through every day To feel good and happy.
I have photos of all my loved ones starting with my husband, my BCNA beastie, my daughter and precious grandaughter and other special people in my life. I have things that make me smile, I have words of encouragement of which one is very special as it is a pink sister picture with "Michele Be Strong" which I definitely needed every single day I did the hyperbaric. I have to thank Donna from Dubbo for this one.
Some of the quotes are things like:
- "Every day in every way I am getting better and better" "
- "I have decided to be happy because it is good for my health"
- "Be someone you want to be around"
I really find this helps me get through my days every day. I also have one very special verse that Janey235 wrote for me that I cherish and I make sure I read it every day.
I have started Yoga once a week and I try to Meditate most days but the hardest part with that is not falling asleep.....hahahahaha
I hope this helps and hopefully I have opened the path for other Ladies to come forward with what they do to help themselves get through their bad, sad and stressful days. In return we can maybe help some of our other pink sisters that are doing it tough.
Lots of love today, tomorrow and always,
Mich
xoxoxoxooxoxoxox
73 Replies
- Mich_xMember
Hey Poll
Hello huny and I am so glad you have found us. I apologise I not been on here earlier but my computer was misbehaving badly as it does for last couple of days.
I can so relate to where you are at. It is such a frustrating time. Where do you live huny? You will be able to find groups in your area by looking on the right side of the main BCNA page and typing in your area. If no success with that contact BCNA direct and they will either put you in contact with someone or have someone call you. There is always someone out there wantiing to help and support you as I want to do right now.
You are right in saying family and husbands "just don't get it"!!!! It is such a common phrase you will hear from any of your pink sisters going through BC.
I am glad you have found this post to hopefully cheer you up but also give you some ideas of what you can do when you are feeling low. I know how hard it is to lift yourself up when you are feeling so down but hopefully some of these things will help.
I hope you have a good GP you can turn to if you have any concerns. Plus a breast care nurse allocated to you following your surgery. Use them, call on them whenever you need and most importantly look after number one because at this time unfortunately it is all about you.
I am not sure if you have or know how to but make sure you put up any new post if there are things that are bothering you on here and the girls will come to your rescue with replys. To post a new post. Go into your own profile, click on blog which is up the top and then it will come up and you can create a post which will then show up on the main online page and you will receive alerts of replies from the girls.
Also if you have a question there is a search tab on the top Right hand side of the main page as well.
I hope you have received your"My Journey Kit" already through BCNA but if not you can order it down the bottom of this page under resources and you should receive it within the week if Australia Post on schedule.
I hope I have helped you a little. Just remember I am hear for you, I know exactly where you are coming from, I know how it feels to be on that roller coaster ride and so do all of us on this site.
It is scary but just remember so many of us have been through what you are going through and have come out the other side to be able to sit here and type a reply to you.
Luv always, Mich xoxoxoxo
- PollMemberHi.i was diagnosed just before my birthday in March with invasive lobula carcinoma. it was caught on mammogram and is very small. my operation is Monday 28th April.as you would know I will have the Sentinel node removed for testing. I am being positive that all will go well but have moments of cours. I have many well wishers but no one person that wants to be there for me except for my family which I am grateful for. my husband is really good but its hard for men. I hope everyone is fairing well and good wishes to you all.
- TonyaMMember
Thanks Daina,that's going straight into my little book of inspirations that I keep. Tonya xx
- RosannaMember
Mich, this is a good topic.
My thinking is - talk it out.
Find whatever way, even go out to find a stranger to say out what's thought. I sometimes will over thinking and fell into anxiety trap., I want to save myself, I hate people worry me, so I usually enlarge small lucky thing, like I sit down infront of TV with a cup tea. I told myself, so relax, so lucky, feeling so good,
I'll find something simply to treat myself very very good, so as to encourage myself to fight for life challenge. (Life is full of challenge)
I took a walk this morning, feeling so nice, I need to well ready for 7MAR chemo schedule, I told myself everything is ready, people around me sending me lover and care, the Medical team are all ready, Rosanna, what a u doing, SO I think, I have to well weapon myself, well ready meself to go for it (????)
sorry for the chinese wordings...............
Thanks for sharing
- RosannaMember
Hi Sara, I feel so sorry to hear from your experience. May I say something to you. I am a Chinese background OZ living in here. I had Chinese friends and OZ friends and family here. I still hassle to talk to all my friends here about my caner, but just 4, and 2 of them were having that before. You had such a family around you, you gone through Chemo, you did something that I didn't aware, it's great effort and courage you've been done. I haven't had my chemo yet until 7March....I wonder what will happen on me.
I prepared the worse, and I believed side effect will happen on me. Sara, apart from cancer, we gone through a lot of difficulties and happiness in our life, when we look back, again, we didn't aware we pass through and work well, and at the end we sit down and smile to ourself - things happened, and I did it.
We had a lot of challenge, please don't fall into the trap, save yourself, if we only stand and star at the corner of the street, we never found the way out and was stuck. Look back, there are ways to come out, and lots of different channel, friends, family are at your back, they are all WITH you. On top, we are lucky here with all the pink sisters, we might not seeing each other faces, but we experienced the same, share the same, feel the same.
I am glad that I was the chosen one being diagonised (out of my 5 sisters and my mother), I am glad it happend here in Australia (finance free from living, and medications) I am glad I know English, that I could read from you and share with you.
Remember you had a lot of challenge before I beg you, and you overcome and fix it very well, and this time you will go through it, cancer is not scary but don't let it knock you down.
Thinking of you; hug you and love UUUU
Xoxo
- Mich_xMember
Oh huny
let me tell u that we all luv u and don't mind if u hav a bad day or maybe just an hour here or there but that is all u r allowed.
think happy thoughts, read happy inspirations to help u get through just like the rest of us.
Don't forget huny we need u, u r our strength and a beautiful person and we luv u, not just what u do.
U know I luv u, that goes without saying, Mich xoxoxoxo
- AnonymousNot applicable
It continues to warm my heart when I read and see the amazing support you all give to each other. Hands down I think being the site administrator here is a pretty great job. Love and positive vibes out to you all. x
When I am feeling down and stressed I go to google images for inspiration.
This is todays one that is appropriate for me!

- Mich_xMember
Fanx Elizebeth and Janey, I am doing fine don't u worry. I am up and at em and know that I am getting closer to that miracle. Hope you luvly ladies are also going well and got that beautiful smile on your dial.
Luv u guys, Mich xoxoxoox
- Janey235Member
I'm glad you are smiling again Mich. I hate to think of you being down. You lift so many of us up with your enthusiam for life and it's not fair that you are going through such a long and harrowing journey. Keep looking at your board full of lovely notices and know that you are thought of every day.
Lots of hugs to you Mich,
Love Janey xxx
- ElizebethMemberMich...reading your blogs and kind responses helped me in my BC journey and I believe that Bowen is a great therapy so I have everything crossed that it brings you healing!! Luv and hugs Elizebeth xx