Up, then down

Hi Kim, a basketball with a guinea pig asleep on top? Love it, I did my eyebrows today and my partner felt he needed to correct one of mine. It feels good to laugh, i'm going to try that more often, it's gotta be better than crying. Besides, the puffy eyes are a detriment to the eye make-up. Many thanks for your post, stay well,

Hazel xx

Hi Kim, I'm in bed with a rotten cold right now and was feeling miserable. You made me laugh and get out if the dumps. Thanks for reminding me to keep my sense of humour. Love Janey xxx

Hi Kim,

Your post to Hazel has made me laugh and see how important it is to cry but also to keep a sense of humour.  I just love yours - inspiring!

Best wishes

Joy xx

Hello Hazel....Honey if you weren't emotional,crying and depressed you would be one in a million! Lives have been thrown in the tumble dryer once the cancer word is uttered. I was diagnosed with cancer in both breasts and had a Bilateral Mastectomy in April 2011. Think I cried, wailed and sobbed at every opportunity. At one Cancer Seminar I even managed to raise my hand through a fit of this uncontrolled sobbing and ask "when will I stop crying"?

Anyhow these feeling lessen over time but are an important part of the process. When I was on the DEX I was a nasty monster full of frustration and continually agitated. Did I mention that was FAT, RED FACED and BALD?

When I had my wig on I looked like my son's basketball with a guinea pig asleep on top of it. Gave up on the wig most of the time and wore a hat or cap and sometimes even just BALD.

Simply putting on a bit of lippy made me feel better. One day after LGFB I did what I thought was a reasonable effort at having some eyebrows. The expression on the faces of my husband and son told me something different! One did look slightly catterpillar like and was much thick than it's companion.     

Life does get back to somewhere near normal there will be more tears but plenty of laughter and smiles

Blessings....Kim.

don't beat yourself up over the down days, they are to be lived thgrough just like the good ones. Its impossible to be up all the time, and you need to be able to vent. I think thats what we are here for too, too listen to the venting as we can truely understand that its just that. Not a deep dark depression but a temporary feeling of world I've had enough today.

I made sure my husband took photos of me throughout the last year and I recently looked at them and some are wonderful and others show me with no hair, pale skin and deep black grooves cut into my face under my eyes. They bare wittness to what I travelled as do your bad days.

The best thing I did for myslef was to see a psychologist, she helped me so much I recommend it for us all.

Ok, take care

Donna

 

The best bits for me were meeting other women from my local community going through treatment at the same time as me, and seeing all the great ideas with headwear. The make-up is very good quality and I was reassured to find that most of the women were as nervous as I was about how to put it on. Just relax and enjoy. Deanne xxx

I have been looking forward to tomorrow's LGFB, and I think you are right, take what I want from the day, hoping for some good make-up tips and maybe some headwear tips. Everyone is different, and I should remember that when I am reading other peoples experiences. I will let you know how the day goes, take care, 

Hazel xx

Hugs back to you, Joy. The very first doctor I saw said 'remember one day at a time' and although I'm only part way through the process, it has proved to be the best advice. Hope you are doing well yourself, take care,

Hazel xx

Oh I'm glad Hazel. Sleep deprivation can be a depressive trigger in itself and thinking of your family and what you have all been through would be a very miserable time for you. I just wanted to tell you that my experience with the LGFB workshop was wonderful. The ladies running it at Peter Mac were lovely and we had a lot of fun. Even sending ourselves up in the finish with over the top makeup (that of course was after the serious demo of the makeup). It was weird at first when they asked us all to take off our head coverings but then we all looked at each other a realised we were practically all bald and it didn't matter, we were not alone. I've never been one to wear a lot of makeup but I took what I wanted from the day and I think that's the main thing. I hope you enjoy it too. Love Janey xxx

Hi Hazel

Good on your for taking yourself of to the GP and also pin pointing what might be the triggers to your depression.  Thanks to you to reminding us all to take one day at a time.   Big hugs to you Hazel you can do this.  Love Joy xx