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LisaO
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8 years ago

Trying to get on with my "new life"

Today marks a milestone for me.
A milestone which I'm sure women who have NOT been diagnosed with bc would struggle to understand, in fact, I've mentioned my milestone to a few family members and I get that blank look on their face, while I know in their minds they just want to say "yep, she has really lost it".

Today marks the second week I didnt break down in my self pity, crying, poor me......when the bin man came at 6am like clockwork every Monday morning.  Its almost embarrassing for me to write, but every single Monday morning at 6am on the knocker, for the past 3 months since I was diagnosed...well the bin man is my cue to fall in a heap.  I think its because my neighborhood is going about its mundane routine activities, the bins get rolled out, the bins get rolled in, the cars start up and neighbours go to work...and Im in bed contemplating my "new life"....wishing I could roll out those bins with not a care in the world, like I did 3 months ago.

So last week I re-opened my little dog grooming business from home, went back to only a few days per week.  
Returning to work has been so healing for my mind.  Im back in the "real world".
So this morning, at 6am when the bin man came...I didnt break down. Week 2 of not breaking down.!!
Its a start...baby steps.  




16 Replies

  • Hi LisaO
    Congratulations on your milestone !  To get back to work and to have furry friends during the day will at least take your mind to a better place.  Animals seem to understand and provide some love when you least expect it - even those who do not really want to be groomed that day.
    (I am wondering if your bin man is cute, though !!!
    Keep up watching for more milestones.
    Summer  :-)
  • @KatyJoy There should be a trophy emoji on this page  :)
    That everyday reality stuff is big.  Last Friday evening I went grocery shopping.  Just seeing everyone out, going to dinner - having fun on a regular weekend. I felt like I was visiting from another planet.  But I was thrilled to be out doing my own shopping for the first time since surgery too.  
    I take heart that, while everyone else looks so 'normal' and peaceful, there are many more people out there, with many stories that are not written on their faces. (Not that I wish it on them - I mean in the sense that I'm not 'the odd one out').  Who ever loses it in public?  Almost no-one.  
    You are brave enough to reach out for joy - the joy of your work.  I'm about to start back at my study (was due to commence honours the week I had surgery :/ ) - and I'm really surprised about how 'wobbly' I feel about making a commitment.  It's like "so...so I just get back to work?"  Feel like I only just got used to the idea of maybe not having a future - only to be reminded that I need to start acting like I do have one - because I probably do - and it ain't gonna happen by itself.  It's totally weird.
    Big hug in celebration of your inner - and outer milestones! 
    (Hmm, there should be a dog emoji too.)
  • Well done! I completely understand, for me it was not so much why me, but I think maybe grieving for what I used to be. Not a care in the world, good boobs, hair, joints that didn't ache, and energy that I could do things with. I cried several times a day for months but now it's probably only once a week, so getting better. I have also recently returned to work which is a great step.
  • You know it's a big milestone, that's the main thing. Accepting what is, is only a small step away from making good things happen again.