I hope you have more luck in Oct with the 3rd surgeon, @Jess33. Maybe try & look at the scars more as 'battle scars' - and YOU WON! Those puppies weren't doing you any favours (matter of fact, tried to kill you!) & you kick booted them out of your body ......
I only had a small procedure compared to you - but now have a dent where the 'recon' slumped a bit afterwards - I was very lucky that all my cutting was just around the nipple (which was removed, the surgery done under the skin & the nipple sewn back on) so I don't notice THOSE scars as much as I do the dent, as they've blended in well with my areola .... my surgeon offered to 'fill it' with another procedure but I said I'd live with it ....
All the best, take care xx