Not coping well
Hi, I’m new to this. I have been getting fairly regular mammograms ect for years now due to strong family history of breast cancer. I’m 45 and have always looked after myself physically very well. No ...
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Hey @Jess33 I'm never sure if my bluntness is OK or not (apologies if it is not)
We are more than the sum of our parts.
I was first diagnosed when I was 43. Bit like you, there was some family history so getting the news was a shock, but not such a surprise. We will leave my recurrence for a different conversation
My initial recon after a double mastectomy and expanders/implants was a complete shitfight--different from yours but still a disaster. Everything that could go wrong did, and I didn't end up with anything that looked the pictures in the brochure. I wish I'd bailed on the whole concept of trying to look normal, but I didn't. I can't count how many surgeries I've had over the last 16 years.
Getting on the trolley and agreeing to have your breasts removed is a very difficult thing to get your head around. Finding the promised replacements are faulty and not fit for purpose just sucks. There are a few of us who have been there.
Again, you are more that the sum of your parts. Or non parts as the case may be. If your partner is struggling because you don't look like you used to, that's not something you can control. You have lost the element of choice, anyone who values you will recognise this. Mxx
We are more than the sum of our parts.
I was first diagnosed when I was 43. Bit like you, there was some family history so getting the news was a shock, but not such a surprise. We will leave my recurrence for a different conversation
My initial recon after a double mastectomy and expanders/implants was a complete shitfight--different from yours but still a disaster. Everything that could go wrong did, and I didn't end up with anything that looked the pictures in the brochure. I wish I'd bailed on the whole concept of trying to look normal, but I didn't. I can't count how many surgeries I've had over the last 16 years.
Getting on the trolley and agreeing to have your breasts removed is a very difficult thing to get your head around. Finding the promised replacements are faulty and not fit for purpose just sucks. There are a few of us who have been there.
Again, you are more that the sum of your parts. Or non parts as the case may be. If your partner is struggling because you don't look like you used to, that's not something you can control. You have lost the element of choice, anyone who values you will recognise this. Mxx