Not coping well
Hi, I’m new to this. I have been getting fairly regular mammograms ect for years now due to strong family history of breast cancer. I’m 45 and have always looked after myself physically very well. No ...
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Hi there
there is a private group here called “ Choosing Breast Construction “ you can join and also a separate website called “ Reclaim your Curves” about reconstruction that you might find useful.
Getting a second opinion seems sensible in the circumstances.
One of the posts at the top of the page you will see there is a book by an ex breast cancer surgeon who got breast cancer at 40 I found it very helpful - she also had a blog.
She was too thin for the surgery using her own tissue and had issues with her implant.She didn’t realise how much she didn’t know about the breast cancer experience until she be done a patient.
Its certainly normal to feel emotional and vulnerable about all this as our breasts are part of our womanhood.
And it’s perfectly normal to grieve about the loss of our “ bullet proof” former self.
Some ladies find seeing a counsellor or psychologist helps, I saw one for a couple of sessions and the best advice she gave me was it’s ok to cry as it’s cathartic.
I have just passed one year since my diagnosis - stage 2 lobular cancer not picked up on mammogram , requiring mastectomy and I decided to get the other one done as well with delayed DIEP tissue reconstruction.
I am in a much better place mentally now than I was 12 or even 6 months ago but still have a random cry , usually when my husband is asleep.
My heart goes out to you and there are many ladies on here who will give you advice and support.
Take care.
there is a private group here called “ Choosing Breast Construction “ you can join and also a separate website called “ Reclaim your Curves” about reconstruction that you might find useful.
Getting a second opinion seems sensible in the circumstances.
One of the posts at the top of the page you will see there is a book by an ex breast cancer surgeon who got breast cancer at 40 I found it very helpful - she also had a blog.
She was too thin for the surgery using her own tissue and had issues with her implant.She didn’t realise how much she didn’t know about the breast cancer experience until she be done a patient.
Its certainly normal to feel emotional and vulnerable about all this as our breasts are part of our womanhood.
And it’s perfectly normal to grieve about the loss of our “ bullet proof” former self.
Some ladies find seeing a counsellor or psychologist helps, I saw one for a couple of sessions and the best advice she gave me was it’s ok to cry as it’s cathartic.
I have just passed one year since my diagnosis - stage 2 lobular cancer not picked up on mammogram , requiring mastectomy and I decided to get the other one done as well with delayed DIEP tissue reconstruction.
I am in a much better place mentally now than I was 12 or even 6 months ago but still have a random cry , usually when my husband is asleep.
My heart goes out to you and there are many ladies on here who will give you advice and support.
Take care.