I need to stay happy and polite

Hi Natalie some people just don't get it. Unfortunately that is the way it is sometimes, all the advice you have been given is good. I myself have seen a counsellor and often vent on this site. This site has been a huge help as people on this site understand. As far as how  to act just be yourself if they don't like it tough you need to look after yourself.

Sending you a big hugxx

Hey Natalie 

Bummer you are being put through the unnecessary crap from the family. As if you dont have enough to deal with!

I agree with Summer no-one knows unless they have gone through it. I am the sort of person that would stick up for myself and tell them all to stick it if they cant be supportive. If this isnt you maybe have a chat to your gp or surgeon to see what they suggest.

Everyone heals in their own time, both physically and emotionally there is no rule book on such things. The family need to be reminded of this and just back off.

You will always have support here.

Sending lots of positiveness your way????

Maryrose 

Hi Natalie

Keep venting here as it does help !  I have no friends living close and hubby is my only family so I can fully understand how you are feeling.  Some ladies on this website were my support - thank you in particular to RobynW and Deanne.  

Talk to your Breast Care Nurse if you relate to her.  She may know of support systems around your area.  I am not into groups but there may be a Breast Cancer Support Group near you if you think that could be an outlet.

Talk to your GP and ask for the 5 free counselling sessions under the Mental Health Care Plan.  That way you can talk things through with an 'outsider' and not feel as though you are holding your family back.  We all take different amounts of time to recover and accept our 'new normal'.

No-one really knows the physical or emotional pain involved unless they have been there so don't give yourself such a hard time.  Come back and vent more as you need, don't let it build up within you.

Big hugs

Summer  :-)

 

 

Hi Natalie,

I am sorry for your distress and lack of compassion from your family, you have had a lot to deal with in a short time. I can only say to you keep posting your feelings to the network as there are so many wonderful caring women who are always here to support you and offer some advice.

If you have a Breast care nurse have a chat to her about your pain levels, and also your feelings about the lack of family support.  I'm sure she will give you the advice you need to deal with the situation. If not ask to speak to a counsellor either through your local Community Health or Hospital.

Sending you a big hug, and please don't despair.

XOXOXO  Annie

Hi Natalie! 

I'm so so sorry that you are not traveling so well feeling unsupported at times.  I can't compare or imagine what you must be going through but hope that someone on this network can advise you of what to do. Or who you can talk too  My only suggestion would be to talk to someone who may have some expertise in this area about it.  Try and treat yourself to something that you enjoy doing or going too.

Big hugs and kisses. 

Sue