Hi allSince chemo has begun, i feel life is different. Im anxious alot fearing what is going to happen next. I havent been going out and just feeling blah. Today whilst feeling like that a friend turned up. I cried on her shoulder and she gave me a canvas with never give up on it. I felt much better and she is going to come over and start walking with me.. tomorrow is a new day.. hugs to all of you going through this awful experience Xxxx Trikki2

Hey @Trikki2,Absolutely normal. Hopefully you can relax a bit as treatment goes on. I found that once I got into a routine of knowing the cycle of the treatment and realised that I could still function quite ok on most days the stress lessened and you become a bit more chilled about it. Just another day at the office so to speak.I found keeping as busy as I physically could was really useful and distracted my brain from constantly thinking about treatment and BC.I also took a lot of photos of anything fun we did along the way. Days out, beautiful sunrises, parties, family trips etc. That way when you look back you can see all the good things you did in amongst the not so good. This was really beneficial. Instead of just looking back and going well that was a shit time. I could see how many good days were in there. Made me feel better about it and it gives you a good sense of strength when you can reflect on "Hey, look at everything I did while going through that"Every body deals with things in different ways. You'll find your groove lovely.Keep on poking along and the end will appear sooner than you think.All the best xoxoxox

Hi Trikki2,I was lucky enough to escape chemo and have only had to cope with radiation and Tamoxifen. I'm sure every one of us here though can relate to your feelings of anxiety and fear. It's great that your friend was able to support you and help you feel better. No matter how great our family and friends are though, nobody understands our anxieties like we understand each other. For a long time, after diagnosis, I would read these messages without contributing and would take comfort that so many others were going g through the same experiences, fears and anxieties as me. It really was, and still is a great comfort to k ow there are others that totally understand how we feel. Take care, take each day as it comes and try to have something little to look forward to each day, whether it be a little walk or a visit from a friend.Michele xx

@Trikki2 I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling anxious. I experienced this during chemo (and continue to have it now). I was diagnosed with anxiety at that time and my psychologist says it's very common in a diagnosis of breast cancer, as is depression. So you are very 'normal' as far as I'm concerned!What a lovely friend you have! So, note to self, when I am feeling blah and weepy, reach out to a friend. Yes? Very good idea to have an exercise companion too. Would it be possible to lock in a few more mates to walk with you?If you're into meditating or relaxation exercises, now would be a good time to do some. It's very good for anxiety. I use an app on my phone (Headspace) that has a programme especially for anxiety, and another for cancer.Life is different, and we have lost the certainty we had before. The future is always unknown but a major illness shakes our foundations. We will adjust. I mean, what choice do we have?!Hang in there love. Chemo is tough. But you'll deepen your understanding of yourself and feel very loved and cherished. Keep slogging, one foot in front of the other. Big hug, Kate xox

Kate you are such a beautiful person who has obviously learnt alot through your cancer journey. I have had depression and anxiety for a long time and have to come off my tablets for surgical reasons. I will check out headspace. I love alternative therapy. I probably can get others to join me. I just have to make that step out.Thanks lovely for all your support Xxx trace

Hey @kezmusc such lovely ideas.. today is a new day and the sun is shining xxTrikki2

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Trikki2
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8 years ago
Thanks @arpie i do need reminders to be kind to myself. Hope all is well with you xxx
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arpie
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8 years ago
How wonderful that your friend was able to give you the lift, just when you needed it, @Trikki2

Awesome.

One day at a time, deep breaths .... do what you can, as you can - no pressure on yourself!

Take care xx
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Trikki2
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8 years ago
@Karenhappyquilter so true we have to do it. I took up knitting today. A new distraction xxx
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Karenhappyquilt
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8 years ago
So sorry that you have to go through this. Counselling and mediation helped me a bit. Some days are going to be horrible, some ok, some good. And then hopefully you get better and life goes on again. Having cancer and going through the treatment is a profound experience and it changes me and others I know. Some changes are definitely for the better. Good luck and hold on. As someone wise said to me when I struggled with chemo, you don’t have to like it, you just have to do it! Karen
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Trikki2
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8 years ago
Hahah so many drugs hey.
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Sarnicad
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8 years ago
I stayed off the drugs today so it wasn’t vague town
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Trikki2
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8 years ago
@Sarnicad wohooooooo fantastic. I haven't driven. My head feels weird lol. Go you xx
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Sarnicad
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8 years ago
@Trikki2 I did the same and I even drove for the first time!
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kmakm
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8 years ago
Baby steps @Trikki2! ;)
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Trikki2
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8 years ago
I love that tshirt @kezmusc. @Sarnicad its friggin hard to get out of your head and think positively. We dont have control in this situation. I dont do sick well either. As i keep saying tomorrow is another day and i will find the positive. Today I made sure i was in clothing and not pjs and went outside for a bit. Xxxx
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