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dumb thing people say
Took the dog for a long walk to clear my head, and get some happy hormones pumping.
Husband asked if I was ok because I seemed a bit cranky, I told him I was terrified about surgery tomorrow and he said "you should be excited you are getting the tumor out"
NOT VERY HELPFUL
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My dear sisters thank you so much for all your support. Agendum I have been married for 30 years( my typing isnt great oopps!) I have been to see my medical onc and she has given me some tab. Efexor has anyone else been on those? and I have been to see the councillor and the social worker. All very helpful . This has been a year of loss ,people who I thought were friends and turned out not to be,others who make my cancer all about them and now this. What doesn't kill you eh? One good thing is that I am still on herceptin every three weeks so I am still connected to all the services at the hospital and this has been a blessing. Wishing you all peaceful and healthy Christmas's Love hilary xx
- That's horrible and really selfish too! The first time I had treatment, I met a young mum with a three year old and a 17 month old whose husband left her because he couldn't handle it! He said he might come back when treatment was finished!! No thanks!!
- That's horrible and really selfish too! The first time I had treatment, I met a young mum with a three year old and a 17 month old whose husband left her because he couldn't handle it! He said he might come back when treatment was finished!! No thanks!!
Just read your blog Hilary -can't believe your husband said that to you.If he really cared about getting you through bc then he should have have kept his mouth shut.Are we supposed to think how noble,he has morals-he's got to be kidding!!Unfortunately this bc journey can either make you stronger as a couple or drive you apart.I'm so sorry this is happening to you now-yes,seek counselling and a lawyer??
Tonya xx
OMG - What as a..hole!! Talk about bad timing. That's so big of him to say he will do what it takes to get you through because he feels morally obligated. All I can say is what goes around comes around. Thinking of you.
Jo xx
What a shit. But then again he was honest and didn't leave you "wondering" about his actions. I so feel for you. Do you have family? There are a few women doing it on their own - some with little ones. These ladies need a medal (yes you Smiley!!) One consolation - don't buy him a Xmas pressie!!!!! Spend the $$$ on yourself. We Pink sisters will always be here with you XLeonie
Oh, my goodness! As if breast cancer isn't enough! What an absolute prick! I wish you lived near me and I would see you through all this and more! I don't know what to say! Except hang in there and all of us at BCNA will be here for you.
I am so sorry,
LynneXXX
Well all I can say is "I dont know what to say" so sorry. and carma ,carma, carma. Hang in there.
This one will blow you all away...... My husband of 39 years just told me he isnt in love with me anymore! he says he will do what it takes to get me through this as he feels morally obligated to ! Phycologist here I come xxx
While we were at my grandmother's funeral, her favourite son (the baby) was clearing out our house. We lived on the family farm, which my father had paid for, and Granny lived with us in the main house....we had 3 rooms which my parents added to the house. All the family photos, Bible, and any heirlooms were gone on our return from the cemetary. We thought the reason he wasn't at the burial was he was too overcome!
