Betrayal

Yep @"Kiwi Angel"  - what a narcissistic old cow!   Obviously you just haven't realised it is all about HER!  @Tigerbeth has got it right .... I just reckon it that you can't cure stupid!

I am so glad that your gorgeous hubby has stood by your side on this & taken control of the situation so well - you'll enjoy future gatherings even more now, not having to worry what you can & can't say within her earshot - cos the silly cow won't be there!!  

You GO GIRL!!  ;)  Big hugs coming your way  xxxxx

Righteous

@tigerbeth - thanks - just as well I didn't want an apology!!  My husband told her she cant be trusted so will no longer be told anything.  I think that she thinks its all over now and there will be no consequences like there usually aren't.  She will get abit of a rude shock when there are no birthday get togethers in the upcoming months.

There is none so deaf as those that do not want to hear !!!
better off without her !!
hugs xx

My beautiful husband talked to her on Saturday - even though she agreed to to tell them she thinks that she hasn’t done anything wrong and she was allowed to tell them and HE had a right to know. Couldn’t understand why I was so upset. So I’m done and my husband is so supportive with my decision. He told her that she will have to deal with consequences of her actions. 

I support @Zoffiel about writing a letter - it will enable you to exorcise the hurt , disappointment and anger by fully explaining how you feel and why .Then burn it and move on keeping a polite distance from the people concerned. If it won’t change their behaviour the angst involved in sending it is not worthwhile.

She also made my Dad’s death all about how upset she was - the woman has some narcissistic traits. 

@Zoffiel & @iserbrown thanks so much for the great suggestion. Unfortunately even if I did decide to send it it’s a pointless exercise - she just lives on a different planet. I have just chosen to distance myself. I will see her when it is required but apart from that - information is on a need to know basis and she has lost the pleasure of my scintillating company  :p. What’s that expression - do it once shame on u, do it twice shame on me?!  This is third time she has done something like this to me unfortunately - a girl can only take so much. 

@arpie I so agree with your politically correct paragraph - so very true and love the pic. 

Thank u all u ladies for your brilliant advice and varying opinions - I appreciate every one - u are all a wealth of experience and advice!! xoxox

I agree with @Zoffiel - writing a letter is a good thing - years ago I had a SIL, of the classic bitch variety, and I was so hurt by her nonsense that I sat and wrote and wrote and wrote and then I re-read it and re-read it and after a few days came to the conclusion that she really was a classic bitch that won't change and I don't need her in my life and hence threw the letter in the fire and felt better for it!

All these years later, 10 to be exact, I saw her at a family funeral and yes she hasn't changed, sits up like a Queen expecting all and sundry to visit and hold court only about herself..........to my knowledge she has no idea about my BC

Many thanks - Hubby is going really well - he has survived longer than most who've had the same condition/surgery/chemo as him (he had most of his stomach removed due to stomach cancer in 2010 & had a heap of follow up chemo and back competing at top level triathlon for his age group, just 6 months later) .... most don't make it to 5 years post op (Bryce Courteney, the writer being one of them.)

I fully agree, @"Kiwi Angel" - and I am SO happy that your husband supports you fully in this & recognises just how devastated you were with this unnecessary  disclosure.  

Sometimes I fear we are a little too 'politically correct' and don't hold people accountable for their actions for fear of upsetting them - even tho they have offended US - and this just gives them permission to keep on doing it!!  :(

I found this on the net recently & it should be on the wall of every classroom in the country .... and sent out to parents when their children enrol!   (Mind you - this post is from one who doesn't have kids!!   LOL)

This becomes: Life Skills for the Future!


All the best xxx