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Emma_H
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10 years ago

6 months pregnant and newly diagnosed

Hi All

Newly diagnosed and 6 months pregnant with my 3rd son. Wow what a hectic 2 weeks iots been. Suspicous nipple sore, specialist, biopsy (YEEEOW), more biopsies, scans, diagonsis (stage 2, grade 3 ductile), masectomy - all between 17th dec and xmas! My head is still spinning.

I think I'm comfortable the oncologist and surgeon, who have been wonderful, know what they are doing (all happened so quick haven't had time to think about it) But I now have to change Obs, birthing hospitals, change from private to public, breastfeeding is not an option (I breastfed my other 2 sons) - and it all seems so scary and overwhelming. 

I know we all are going through a shitty time, and I'm lucky to be having my third. But I am just so scared. I am also the type of person who has to know EVERY detail and plan, well ahead of time, and all the possible outcomes. I lost my mum last year at 57 to leukemia, and my inlaws live interstate.

 Although I have great friends and an awesome community, fantastic hubby etc for support I still feel very alone.

Thanks for the vent, seems writing this down helps ;) 

Emma xx

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  • Emma_H's avatar
    Emma_H
    Member
    10 years ago

    Thanks Tracey. Your words mean a lot. I guess I'm more upset about the change in obs etc than logically I should because as you say it means bubs and I have the right specialists etc. It's just one more change I guess and I'm trying to hold onto something. 

    I'm going to have to learn to be less stubborn and let people help. 

    Em xx

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    Nadi
    Member
    10 years ago

    Hi Emma

    So sorry you are going through this too and are pregnant at the same time. I too have three sons but I was diagnosed in October when they were 21,18 and 16 which is very different. The first few weeks go so quick because there is so much going on so vent away. After that the breast cancer side of things generally slow down. My own experience is that it can really help to share what you are going through with others who have gone through the same or similar. I have received some fantastic advice from the wonderful ladies on this network who have gone before me. So we are here to help if we can.

    I am also a person who like to know all the details and plan ahead. Unfortunately I am coming to terms with the fact that in my own journey it is not always possible to know everything ahead of time. As Tracey said, take it one day at a time - but I also know that sometimes that's easier said than done. Some days may feel too overwhelming but then the next day may be easier. Keep strong and please stay in touch.

    Take care, Nadine

     

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    Tracey62
    Member
    10 years ago

    Hi Emma,

    what a lot you have had to deal with in such a short period of time, when this is meant to be a joyful time for you. No wonder your head is spinning. I can't help but think what courage it took to make your treatment decisions so quickly, clearly you are a woman of strength and determination. 

    I have a friend who was diagnosed in her second trimester, had chemo with Bub in utero, delivered a beautiful healthy baby girl, then completed her surgery and chemo after Bub was born.  Her story really encouraged me when I was diagnosed. This is a really challenging time for you but changing Obs & hospitals will mean you have a specialist obstetrician who is experienced with your complicated case.

    just deal with one day at a time. You have done so well to get where you are today. Remember, today you have 2 beautiful children, a precious little one on the way, a husband to care for you and a whole team of people around you who are there to help, give advice and allow you to make your own choices. Yes, it's scary, but you are strong and you will make it through this. Wishing you all the best, Tracey ??