Three days in.

Great advice above (as usual) ...we all know how frightened you, your mother and indeed your whole family are. The general advice we give to all newcomers, those affected and family members, is to keep away from Dr Google. I'm sure that for a young person such as yourself, who has grown up with technology and refers to it all the time, and for everything, this is a hard ask. A bit like placing a large tin of lollies on the table, and then telling a three year old that they can't have one 'till after dinner. One very good reason for this (aside from the observations above regarding google) is that breast cancer as a diagnosis is a blanket diagnosis. Until your mum has had all the biopsies, tests, surgery and post surgical pathology, which kind, the stage and grade, the extent of spread and so on is unknown. It's not a "one size fits all" situation. To say a person has breast cancer is like saying a person owns a small business. They are not all the same. A small business could be a corner grocery shop, a newsagency, a hairdressers, a pet shop....you get my drift. Each business has different customers, stock, runs different hours, requires certain staff and so on. Much the same with breast cancer. There are many different types, some hormone receptive, some not, some in the ducts, some in the lobules and so on. Each different type, its stage, your mum's age, general state of health and suchlike, will mean that a treatment plan will be put in place for her specifically. What she has and the sequence in which it happens, may be totally different than for me, or dozens of other members in this group. Are you aware that we even have a few men in this group? Not many people know that men can also get breast cancer. This I mention to highlight to you the diversity of poeple in our dreadful club. We are all different and our treatments differ too. Having said that, we have all been touched on the shoulder by The Reaper and understand your terror. We get it and we will support you and your mum as much as we are able. Sending you a big cyber (((hug)))...Ally.