I had invasive ductal carcinoma,and have just finished chemo.I agree with Corinne,in that we are all different,and react differently to treatment.For me,I needed a bit of help after surgery,but mostly help with showers,and some help with cooking etc.I think with 3 small children,you will definitely need some help with lifting and doing everyday things with your children.As for chemo,there will most likely be some days each cycle when you will be tired ,and need some help with your children.But everyone is different,and some people need more help than others.I am older than you and have a grown family,however I think that if I had 3 young children,I,would be accepting all offers of help.All the best as you start this journey,and jump online whenever you need help and advice.This network,as you will find,is the most amazing place for support,from ladies who have done it all before.Sending you hugs. xoxoxo Robyn