Yes you have done it the right way Eileen! it must have been very hard home schooling on your own and having your husband working away! This network is the best place to connect with people in similar situations,and get lots of good advice and help.Even just good for a chat sometimes.(24/7) I know there is a reconstruction group on here that I have seen lots of ladies talk about.I am sure that someone will be on here soon to direct you to it.I don't belong to it,as I decided against reconstruction.All the best with your decision,and I am sure with the help of the ladies on here,you will make the best choice for you.Take care and stay in touch.xoxoRobyn