I had my surgery the following week so that I could attend end of year things and in particular, my daughter's primary school graduation but then again, I didn't have reconstruction so not as big an operation to fit in. I agree that it is an occasion and you'll want to be there but more important to get well. @kmakm has made a good suggestion about FaceTiming it. I wonder if it's worthwhile having a conversation with whoever at the school is organising the grad? If, come the day, you are up for it, maybe you could get someone to drive you there and slip in at the back, away from the crowds. I say this from the point of view of someone who has never had that particular surgery. It is a big op and your recovery will be the most important thing.
