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Im Outta Here
Hi all
So Ive decided to take a break from the BCNA forum. It has been bought to my attention from one of the moderators that I have offended some people with my language and certain posts.
"It was the swearing and even though it was not directed at anyone, the language in the story conveyed was the main concern. This issue came up last year as well. I know that it is part of your normal conversation Margie and no offence is taken, some members are more sensitive to swearing in the online forum than others"
This amongst other things going on in my life has not put me in a good head space and I need to take some time. During my time on this forum I have received so much support which has been so very much appreciated and I hope I have been able to offer some support to others out there too. I will continue to stay in touch with the lovelies I chat to off the forum and will check in every now and then to update on my case with the superannuation tribunal as I feel this is valuable for some people and I will also let you know about the charity gala dinner I am holding later in the year (date TBA) but other than that I wont be around. I wish BCNA all the best with the upcoming teleconference and I know their will be some awesome input and outcomes with that but I'm just not interested in not being 100% myself and fake that's not who I am.
My sincerest apologies to those who have taken offence to my language but I hope you were able to see past the "language" and have still gotten some advice and support at least from my comments and posts. To those of you who have gotten a laugh out of said posts, I'm happy you had a giggle and hopefully it made this s*&^^y mountain we all climb a little less s*&^^y (again sorry if that offends). Some of you might say "just tone down the language" well that's just how I express myself sometimes. I haven't judged anyone on here who chooses not to swear or said they are prudish for example or voiced my opinion on things I don't agree with. I've just offered support to those people even though my comments might not be considered lady like or proper and it might not be someone else's way of dealing with bc but its my way, that's it.
So it is what it is and I've sent my contact details via PM to those of you I think might like to contact me regarding info on support services and groups etc. or those who I now consider to be friends and I will continue to support those ladies as I know "they get me" and are on the same page and I think this will be the best for everyone concerned. It will stop making work for the moderators as well as I'm sure they all look at all my posts more carefully now lol! Best of luck and biggest hug to you all and I wish you all the best of luck and every happiness
Margie xxxx
So Ive decided to take a break from the BCNA forum. It has been bought to my attention from one of the moderators that I have offended some people with my language and certain posts.
"It was the swearing and even though it was not directed at anyone, the language in the story conveyed was the main concern. This issue came up last year as well. I know that it is part of your normal conversation Margie and no offence is taken, some members are more sensitive to swearing in the online forum than others"
This amongst other things going on in my life has not put me in a good head space and I need to take some time. During my time on this forum I have received so much support which has been so very much appreciated and I hope I have been able to offer some support to others out there too. I will continue to stay in touch with the lovelies I chat to off the forum and will check in every now and then to update on my case with the superannuation tribunal as I feel this is valuable for some people and I will also let you know about the charity gala dinner I am holding later in the year (date TBA) but other than that I wont be around. I wish BCNA all the best with the upcoming teleconference and I know their will be some awesome input and outcomes with that but I'm just not interested in not being 100% myself and fake that's not who I am.
My sincerest apologies to those who have taken offence to my language but I hope you were able to see past the "language" and have still gotten some advice and support at least from my comments and posts. To those of you who have gotten a laugh out of said posts, I'm happy you had a giggle and hopefully it made this s*&^^y mountain we all climb a little less s*&^^y (again sorry if that offends). Some of you might say "just tone down the language" well that's just how I express myself sometimes. I haven't judged anyone on here who chooses not to swear or said they are prudish for example or voiced my opinion on things I don't agree with. I've just offered support to those people even though my comments might not be considered lady like or proper and it might not be someone else's way of dealing with bc but its my way, that's it.
So it is what it is and I've sent my contact details via PM to those of you I think might like to contact me regarding info on support services and groups etc. or those who I now consider to be friends and I will continue to support those ladies as I know "they get me" and are on the same page and I think this will be the best for everyone concerned. It will stop making work for the moderators as well as I'm sure they all look at all my posts more carefully now lol! Best of luck and biggest hug to you all and I wish you all the best of luck and every happiness
Margie xxxx
44 Replies
- Take care @onemargie have enjoyed your comments...will miss you and hope to see you soon xx
- Dear Onemargie
I admire your bravery and fortitude
thankyou for bringing clarity sparkle and a mischevious wit to this m..f. :s disease
All the best
Bright in hope - Hi @onemargie , I have sent you a pm,
wendy55 - @onemargie they should be thanking you for continual support to so many of us on here. Almost everytime I have posted something you have responded and that has made me feel supported !
we all speak a little different - I can’t believe there’s some out there that complain...especially given what we are all going through - You are a light in many dark days for some l always chuckled at you.you were my light somedays.xxx
- Nooooooooo!!! I love your posts! You are so honest and funny! So generous with your support and knowledge. I will really miss your input! Don’t stay away too long xxx
- @onemargie, I've never found any of your posts offensive. I'm a potty mouth myself and I really will miss your input here. I'm saddened to think we can't be ourselves here without judgement. Just because a person swears does not make you a bad person. I hope you reconsider your decision. <3
- I’m only new to the site, @onemargie .... so am still ‘on my best behaviour’ ..... but when I had my 2 meltdowns the other day, the F word was flowing freely in my house!! My husband (who has slight dementia) just looked up and said “Problems??” LOL. (He doesn’t swear!)
Life is short - don’t sweat the small stuff (or small minded!).... we’ve all had a bloody big scare in recent times and a bit of humour and good advice mixed with a few expletives can get a particular message across a lot quicker than dancing around the edges using big words!! And if the F word ‘works’ (as it does now & then) .... DO IT!
I’ve only read a couple of your posts with swearing in it, and I am not offended ..... cos I can mix it with the best!! You should hear me when I lose a BIG FISH at the side of my kayak!! LOL
you have a solid following here and it would be a shame to lose your wit and wisdom .... I look forward to reading more of your posts after you have a little ‘time out’ .... cheers. Roberta - I choose to save my swear words for really special occasions, but that's a choice I make for myself, not for everyone else. Thank you so much for your post and and advice @onemargie. It didn't matter what the wrapping paper was like, the gift was great.
All the best. Jane - Will miss you. I look forward to seeing you pop back in. I hope all goes well with your recovery and look forward to seeing you in the recon group and do hope that your chance to rebuild your body is not in the too distant future.
I had events happen and I stepped back a bit. But after a few days I'm back. ..as we all know what it's like to be newly diagnosed. Kath x
