Hometime

That sounds like a very wise way to handle it. If I explain what really matters to me about how things are done, he does get it. After reading your post, I told him that it worries me to have foodscraps and dirty plates around esp in this weather, and that once I am on chemo I have to be careful of moulds and bugs because I will be immuno--suppressed for a time. And he is being a lot more careful with things. Part of the trouble is that I have also had a massive deep lipoma (harmless fatty cyst) removed from my other collarbone at the time of my mastectomy, and this has left a big hole in the chest muscle he couldn't stitch together: I have strict orders from my surgeon to do very little with my right arm for the next two weeks, so it is like having a broken right arm as well as a post-mastectomy light-duties-only left mastectomy arm. So I really ought to be a total princess leaving almost everything to my husband and family. But I keep doing stuff I shouldn't.