Hometime

I know exactly what you are talking about. My friends and family jokingly called me princess before my BC daignosis,so I was making a concerted effort not to be too much of one after my op. I have had trouble ignoring messy areas of the house while recovering and going through chemo. My partner is actually a better cook than I am and he cleans reasonably well, but in the first half of this year we put in a new Ikea kitchen, and I'm determined to keep it as clean and new as possible. He doesn't see things as I do, but it's a matter of ignoring it or do it myself. Then at Xmas he got ill and is slowly recovering from heart problems, so even less housework is being done! I am learning to ignore the little issues and we had a talk and decided to to prioritise, the kitchen and bathroom have to be cleaned and the rest can wait till we are both are up to it. I can see your point where you don't want to be seen to be nagging, maybe if you just explained what needs doing the most he will understand. Try not to do too much yourself and rest and recover when you can, wish you well, 

Hazel xx