Thank you Deanne and Michelle. Luckily I work at the Mater, and have a friend (In medicine)who has recommended a surgeon. Despite not having the cytology I've already been told it will have to come out - and that wasn't a surprise. It's just this total wow - what's happening here thing - I'd just got my life up and running after a nasty car crash five years ago, finally legals were settled, bills paid, trip to UK to see my family booked for five weeks time - but now!! This site seems great - my husband is awesome, girls' don't know it's cancer yet - they think it's a lump until I know more - but my head is going at a million miles a minute - I keep telling it to stop, but it won't. I'm very much a black humour person, which helps, and am taking it an hour at a time right now until I know more.