I get your step away post but drop in sometimes for just a yarn and see how you are going. Reconstruction was never an issue for me. I got rid of the cancer with the breast and I don't care that I only have one headlight now; I am alive. I would welcome anyone noticing my single bump as an opportunity to warn others to keep vigilant for lumps as its got nothing to do with lifestyle as lots of women and even men can get it. Lack of breasts doesn't mean you have become less of a woman but it does take time to come to terms with it. At least you're not dead though. I keep reminding myself of how fortunate I was that it was detected early and treated.