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A day to say good-bye to a friend
Well, here I am, just finished my Breast Cancer Treatment and ready to go into recovery and regain my energy, and what do you know, a close friend passes away suddenly.
Life just keeps on happening, regardless doesnt it girls! I want to thank every one for their lovely words of support all the way through my treatment and also to those who reached out even further and said, "Sorry to hear of your loss"
Now its time for me to be strong for my husband, who has just dealt with Cancer, and now says good-bye to his best friend, of 42 years old. It was sudden and no-one was aware of a health issue, even his doctor.
May we all enjoy each day with those we love with hope, love and happiness...... X Bel
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Speaking of motor bikes..
There is a new neighbour and he has a Harley ! He loves to get out and ride after the working week. I am getting used to the sound of it now.. LOL
The pain and emotions, of loss and grief, is had to go through. I feel for you and your husband at this time.
I had a fellow BC Forum lady stay here a few days last week. Trini.. a Phillipino lady who lives at Swansea. Her husband dropped her off, and we saw the flooding at the Gorge which I always find amazing; the power of nature.We also caught up with a few others and I was tired afterwards, as I am not used to having people to stay for long.
Yes, I hope we can catch up again in Launceston one day. There is a strong possibility I might be moving back there after Feb 2014.
As much as I like it here, my daughter is in Launceston and I want to help out. It might be the right time to move from here, after 28 years.. LOL !
Then again.. We shall have to wait and see....first things first..
Good luck with job hunting... Kathy.
Oh we did buy the motor bike a couple of months ago. But the rain is so aweful, Sean has only been able to ride it twice! Also, he isnt allowed to have me as a passenger until one and a half years have gone by. Ahhh, a long term plan for the two of us to head out together. The scenary here is spectacular, the weather, lousy! X Bel
Time for you guys to get that motorbike!
Wishing you lots of love & strength Bel
Sam xoxox
Time for you guys to get that motorbike!
Wishing you lots of love & strength Bel
Sam xoxox
You will recall the morning it happened because I accidentally sent you a text message saying "Wrong Kathy". What is it about the people we know who shine so brightly they make you look forward to seeing them because of the lift they give you. The friend who we looked up to for achieving a thousand fabulous things, and had just always been there for us, as the "go to" person. Yes, my husbands best friend has suddenly disappeared, and I choose not to think about it too, often because it is such an aweful reality. My heart breaks if I look at Sean and say to myself, you lost the one friend who really cared about you, who you had great fun with, and who was your greatest source of laughter and valued his opinion so much. I am my husbands "everything" and now we both face the rest of our lives in a world without Phil. It will take time - thats for sure.
See you in Launceston again one day Kathy, X Bel
It is only bringing us closer! We are doing well XX Bel
I am sorry to hear of your husband losing his best, close friend, so suddenly. Your advice is also good on many levels, and uplifting too.
I recently attended a meeting in Scottsdale, at the Community House, and an informal Cancer Support is starting. They will possibly go into Launceston at some stage and visit the centre there. It is still evolving at this point.
Best of luck to you and your husband.. Kathy.
- He does sound incredibly special! You were indeed privileged to be amongst his best friends. My fathers memorial was the best I've been to. They do give ideas of how we'd like ours organised ... Even if it doesn't happen for another forty years, lol. Keep healing, love and light, k
Ah how we have all learnt that when life gets tough, it is our spirit and determination that pulls us through each bit.
Each day, many times a day, since my husband and I first got together we tell each other we love each other. Now we say "You are my everything" and we mean it.
From what we just experienced, the loss of his best friend, from now on, I will endeavour to reach out to find love and friendship for us both. I promise to open my arms wide and help those I can when asked, and I promise to have more fun.
I have been lucky because after having Cancer, I have made lots of new friends, in the hospitals, the Cancer Support Centre and even at a funeral. It has made me a better person because I am less involved in how I look and more involved with love and happiness.
I know - everything happens for a reason. Whether we are happy about it or not.
As long as I learn and grow - be abetter person each day, I am living my life to the full.
X Bel
Time to find my strength and progress toward the goal of returning to the work force. I live with optimism, and consider I will still be around until I get old and complain about wrinkles and flabby skin. (oh .....hang on...smiling).
I am warned it will take a year to get my energy back. I just want the sun to shine so we can go for walks and get out of the house!!
Thank you for your support Donna, I wish you well with your treatment, and will be keeping an eye on everyone still, Im not a deserter!
X Bel
