Hi Jeska, so sorry to hear about your mum. I have just been through a similar journey with my mum. She needed emergency surgery and as a result,got diagnosed with liver cancer. She was 81 and trying to recover from huge surgery and an infection when the oncologist stood at the end of her bed to tell her she'd only have 6mths to live. I was annoyed with him but mum took it on the chin and opted for no chemo.I nursed her at home and she believed she'd die in 6mths and so stopped 'living'.She lived for another 14mths and had good quality of life and good care.(I'm a nurse).Before any medical appointments I would talk with mum and write down all the questions we wanted to ask.Mum needed to still have some control.Your mum is a lot younger and she has hope and still feels ok.I guess I'm saying that no doctor can predict how long your mum has and it sounds like she's not ready to discuss that topic yet.Perhaps write down her questions before the appointment but allow her to do the talking- prompting her if she forgets and writing down everything her doctor says? It's hard being the carer but you sound like a lovely daughter and you'll do just fine.You are most welcome at this network.Cancer is scary whether it's early, a recurrence, metastisized or happening to your loved one. Big hug- Tonya xx
