Hi Jeska,
I really feel for you and know what you are going through. My Mum died in 1981 from metases. She had a Mastectomy, chemo, radio and it still spread to her neck and brain. But that was a long way back and I'm sure they will be able to treat and keep her comfortable. At least that is good she doesn't appear too sick. My Mum died at age 57, ironically when I turned 57 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I underwent Mastectomy, axillary node clearance and chemo, now nearly five years on am on hormone treatment. I can only suggest you talk with your Mum and assure her you want to be with her and ask questions at the appointment. Yes after chemo you become forgetful, and she may not take it all in, but with you there you will also know and don't be afraid to ask all the questions you want.
My prayers go out for you and your Mum and family.
love xxx
