If she feels she can't drive then do organise for someone else to take her to appointments a couple of times to give you a break. It is very important to look after you too. My sister has done a lot of this and I sent her away on a trip and ended up encouraging her to see a counselor as I can see she is unraveling. ..and quite frankly I only want to deal with my cancer and not her mental health exhaustion too....my own is enough.
My minor cording got worse with chemo. And I also developed trunkal oedema which made my arm tight to my wrist....no arm swelling though. I found no bra and a tight tank helped with drainage as well as regularly lifting my arms above shoulder height to encourage flow...and that gentle stroking downwards. My physio never heard of it with chemo...but it apparently happens a lot with radiotherapy....and resolves later. Stretching, movement and compression tanks can all help. I know mine is chemo related as it follows the cycles then settles just in time for next one. The best thing for it us constant movement. Swimming is fantastic. ..but maybe not whilst having radiotherapy.
Now as to you....maybe organise a social outing for you during one of your many trips. Daughter to physio...you off for coffee with a friend.
Take care. You are wonderful. Kath x
