Please help me help my wife.
My wife was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in January and is BRCA1 so a double mastectomy is more than likely happening soon. I'm getting better at just letting her vent and holding her sometimes i...
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Dear @HowdyPartner
It sounds like you are on a good track - you can’t fix everything and being reassured that she is loved, valued and cherished is important even if your wife is a bit lost in her own grief about what’s happening to her. It may need to be handled sensitively but sometimes it’s important to treat the mind and the emotions, as well as the body, when it comes to cancer. A good counsellor can be invaluable but it has to be a good one, your medical team may be able to advise. Talking to a stranger can be very therapeutic - you don’t have to consider their feelings or worry about exposing your own anger or despondency (both perfectly natural). But releasing those feelings and facing them can help immensely. It’s a difficult time - for both of you. Try and be gentle with yourselves and take one thing at a time. Best wishes.
It sounds like you are on a good track - you can’t fix everything and being reassured that she is loved, valued and cherished is important even if your wife is a bit lost in her own grief about what’s happening to her. It may need to be handled sensitively but sometimes it’s important to treat the mind and the emotions, as well as the body, when it comes to cancer. A good counsellor can be invaluable but it has to be a good one, your medical team may be able to advise. Talking to a stranger can be very therapeutic - you don’t have to consider their feelings or worry about exposing your own anger or despondency (both perfectly natural). But releasing those feelings and facing them can help immensely. It’s a difficult time - for both of you. Try and be gentle with yourselves and take one thing at a time. Best wishes.