Mum always knows everything!
I am newly diagnosed and dread telling my parents. They are elderly and yes it will be a shock. But....my mum knows everything and will no doubt tell me what I have done wrong, what I need to do, et...
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Hey @NotHappyJan,
This is always the hard bit. Maybe you could start with "I have some news and it would be really helpful if you could just listen to what I have to say" That might put her on the back foot to begin with, or not. You might just have to wing it and get grumpy if she starts on about it.
My husband got straight on the phone to my mother as soon as we found out. This man cannot keep his mouth shut, bless him. Plus he was freaked out and didn't know what to do with his now babbling, stunned mess of a wife, and needed some back up I think.
By the time I got home from the doctors she was on the doorstep. I am lucky enough to have one of those mothers who is just the nicest person in general to everybody (although she was pretty handy with a wooden spoon and doing her block when I was young). She just spent the next hour listening and saying it should have been her and not me, it wasn't fair, she was older and it should be her etc etc. She rang my gp and promptly drove up the rode to get some diazepam. Nice work mum, drug the daughter out. I am glad she did though.
I never want a rerun of that afternoon. Still gives me chills thinking about it.
You never know she might surprise you. Let's hope so. Once it's out and conversation over you can stop worrying about it whichever way it goes.
xoxoxo
This is always the hard bit. Maybe you could start with "I have some news and it would be really helpful if you could just listen to what I have to say" That might put her on the back foot to begin with, or not. You might just have to wing it and get grumpy if she starts on about it.
My husband got straight on the phone to my mother as soon as we found out. This man cannot keep his mouth shut, bless him. Plus he was freaked out and didn't know what to do with his now babbling, stunned mess of a wife, and needed some back up I think.
By the time I got home from the doctors she was on the doorstep. I am lucky enough to have one of those mothers who is just the nicest person in general to everybody (although she was pretty handy with a wooden spoon and doing her block when I was young). She just spent the next hour listening and saying it should have been her and not me, it wasn't fair, she was older and it should be her etc etc. She rang my gp and promptly drove up the rode to get some diazepam. Nice work mum, drug the daughter out. I am glad she did though.
I never want a rerun of that afternoon. Still gives me chills thinking about it.
You never know she might surprise you. Let's hope so. Once it's out and conversation over you can stop worrying about it whichever way it goes.
xoxoxo