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Nadi
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8 years ago

Here we go again

After my mum's recent diagnosis of pulmonary fibrosis they found a mass in her breast. Tomorrow I am taking her for a fine needle biopsy. At least I can tell her what to expect. She's already convinced she has breast cancer since I've had it. I just don't want to think about what it will mean if she's diagnosed..... It just so happens that the pain in my sternum that the dr thought was costochondritis a few weeks ago has returned. I am now convinced it is stress. All this after I finally heard yesterday that I got Dad a place in a nursing home. He's currently still in hospital and I haven't broke the news to him yet because he hasn't had too many days without delirium from his dementia.

Now I am stating to have a little panic..... I so don't want to go through another cancer journey. Crossing fingers, eyes, toes and everything else that mum's lump is not BC.

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  • Zoffiel's avatar
    Zoffiel
    Member
    8 years ago
    Life sometimes feels like a giant game of "whack-a-mole". Get on top of one thing and another pops up. Its bloody exhausting. Good luck, Nadi, looks like those project management skills are going to get a work out. Or it could all be a false alarm which would be nice for once, wouldn't it?
  • primek's avatar
    primek
    Member
    8 years ago
    Oh golly what a torrid time.
    So lets take stock.
    You have found your Dad a place so once he is in that will be 1 less stress knowing he is safe. Big sigh if relief.
    With your Mum no matter what the outcome  you know the drill. You will be able to reassure and help because you have done it. You'll worry about the outcomes but once you know the plan you will be fine. You will. 
    Now I know it seems impossible but you need to do something for you. A walk. Go to a movie. A swim. A massage.  Lunch with a friend. Anythibg that will relax you and distract you. And do some minfulness meditation to relax. Mindshift app or Smiling minds app have some good ones you can follow. 5 mins is all you need. 
    You are important and need to take care of you too.  We are here to listen when you need to blow off steam. Kath X


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    Polly_Rose
    Member
    8 years ago
    Nadi it is really challenging to be caring for parents who are sick and particularly when your Mum is travelling a path that you already know so well. As frustrating as it is to be on the other side of the illness, it is still a fabulous opportunity for you to show a fantastic level of love and care for your parents.  Whatever the road ahead will be for your family, you can continue to show your parents the support and amazing love that you so obviously have for them both. I'm sure that it will not be without its challenges but it's important to remember to be kind to yourself through all of this and if you begin to feel overwhelmed then perhaps find someone to talk to. I hope all goes ok with both your Mum and Dad and please let us know how they are going. 
    Take Care
    Polly