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jenpen
13 years agoMember
Rest peacefully Mum..
I was diagnosed with early breast cancer on Friday 27 Sept 2013. Shocking news and not what I had been expecting.
On Sunday 29 Sep (2 days later) my beautiful Mum passed away.......devastated and trying to come to terms with my BC diagnosis this is going to be difficult...just got to be stronger than I've ever had to be!
Love you Mum....I will get through this with you as my guardian angel however much I will miss you!
37 Replies
- mgndam1603Member
That is such sad news, loosing a parent is hard enough, let alone right ontop of being diagnosed with Breast Cancer. My heart goes out to you. Many times through my treatment i wished my mama was alive, that she was there holding my hand and helping me through, but then I thought how hard it would have been for her to watch me go through all the treatments.
Wishing you well with your on going surgery and treatment.
cheers
donna
- magicmumMember
Oh my dear, my deepest sympathy on the loss of your mum.
I was diagnosed 18 months ago, and was lucky enough to have my mum for moral support until just before Christmas. She was 96, she had a brilliant life and she slipped away quietly and peacefully in her own bed. Whilst I still haven't got used to the idea that she's not here, in many ways she still is.
Search for her in your head, she's there - all those little things you shared and told each other, all still there. People tell me now I am like my mum - I like to think that's her coming through.
This site is a true saviour, girls are just lovely and SO supportive. I wish you the very best in your treatment.
Travel through the grief at the pace your own heart wants, eventually the sadness will be replaced with loving memories. I am not sure how long it takes, I haven;t got there yet.
much love
magicmum
- magicmumMember
Oh my dear, my deepest sympathy on the loss of your mum.
I was diagnosed 18 months ago, and was lucky enough to have my mum for moral support until just before Christmas. She was 96, she had a brilliant life and she slipped away quietly and peacefully in her own bed. Whilst I still haven't got used to the idea that she's not here, in many ways she still is.
Search for her in your head, she's there - all those little things you shared and told each other, all still there. People tell me now I am like my mum - I like to think that's her coming through.
This site is a true saviour, girls are just lovely and SO supportive. I wish you the very best in your treatment.
Travel through the grief at the pace your own heart wants, eventually the sadness will be replaced with loving memories. I am not sure how long it takes, I haven;t got there yet.
much love
magicmum
So sorry to hear of your loss. Hopefully you will have some good people in your life to support you. Prayers and well wishes for you Melanie
- Mich_xMember
Hey Jen
I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard enough to have to say goodbye to a loved one let alone your mum and then to have to be dealing with your BC diagnosis. Life just isn't fair sometimes. I hope you have a lot of love and support around you during this tough time.
If there is anything you would like information on if you type in the search tab up the top on the right hand side then it will take you to all the previous posts that us pink ladies have written and you will be able to find so much information.
You will also find that your My Journey Kit will become attached to your hip and you will take it everywhere. I still rely on mine even to this day. I have recorded phone numbers that I thought I would never need again just in case and sure enough I needed them but also to put details of your appts etc. it is a godsend. I hope you have someone who can attend appointments with you because often "us the patient" find it very hard to take it all in. Take it day by day Jen or even hour by hour if you need to. I still do that today to help me get through difficult times.
As all the other ladies have said you have come to a wonderful supportive and caring group of ladies who will support you in any way they can. They will advise you and will lend an ear when you need one.
I have been part of this site since not long after my diagnosis which is coming up to 2 years soon and for me they became my family and I am still here today receiving love and support and giving love and support where ever I can.
I am so glad you have found us and please let us be there in any way we can because we care.
Lots of love always, Mich xoxooxox
- ChrisMemberHi Jenny, I am so sorry to read your story. To lose your mum and be diagnosed with breast cancer in the same week is just awful. I am so glad that you have found this site, and hope that we can all support you at this sad time. I am nearly 3 years post diagnosis, and like the ladies before, blogging wasn't something I had ever done before. For 6 months I would come on just to read the blog, and then one day I got brave and started to blog. I have found this site to be awesome. The support from the other ladies who have been through BC or are going through it has been amazing. You will find that there is always someone who will understand what you are feeling, or going through. It is a great place to ask questions, or just to rant and rave in a safe environment . I hope you have found the resource pages and ordered your My Journey kit. If you go to the tab at the top where it says New Diagnosis, you will find out how to order it. We welcome you and will be thinking if you this coming week as you say goodbye to your Mum, and then have surgery for BC. Good luck. Love Chris xx
- ChrisMemberHi Jenny, I am so sorry to read your story. To lose your mum and be diagnosed with breast cancer in the same week is just awful. I am so glad that you have found this site, and hope that we can all support you at this sad time. I am nearly 3 years post diagnosis, and like the ladies before, blogging wasn't something I had ever done before. For 6 months I would come on just to read the blog, and then one day I got brave and started to blog. I have found this site to be awesome. The support from the other ladies who have been through BC or are going through it has been amazing. You will find that there is always someone who will understand what you are feeling, or going through. It is a great place to ask questions, or just to rant and rave in a safe environment . I hope you have found the resource pages and ordered your My Journey kit. If you go to the tab at the top where it says New Diagnosis, you will find out how to order it. We welcome you and will be thinking if you this coming week as you say goodbye to your Mum, and then have surgery for BC. Good luck. Love Chris xx
- Janey235MemberIt's going to be a tough week for you Jenny. I will be thinking of you. Hugs back to you Janey xxx
- jenpenMember
Hi Christine & Angie
Thanks so much for your lovely welcome! How lucky I decided to join...and glad you did too! The journey will be difficult for everyone but what a fantastic network to be a member of - all here to help each other out - just fab!
Well I am missing my beautiful Mum and having to say our last goodbye next Tuesday at her funeral will be devastating! Then on Friday I am booked in to have my mastectomy......it's going to be a surreal week!
Best of luck Angie with the radiotherapy treatment....you are well ahead of my journey but can well imagine how difficult it is with 2 babies (mine were born 15 months apart so know how tricky that can be with a healthy body!)
Thanks for your support ladies....cyber hugs to you both - Jenny x
- jenpenMember
Hi Janey
Thanks so much for your lovely message of support....and how wonderful to know that complete 'strangers' are here to help us all get through this tough ride! My beautiful Mums funeral is on Tuesday and my mastectomy op is Friday....it's certainly going to be a surreal week for my family members and I...however, we will get through!
I hope all is going well with your health too....I am only just navigating my way around the site but am sure I will be an expert at using it before too long!
Best wishes to you...and sending cyber hugs your way...Jenny x