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Hey Micky

Good to hear that all is well. You did well in taking advice from all of us , but at the end of the day all of our journeys are different but the road to get there is not alone , wer are only a few clicks away.

Take care.... Scotty H

It has been 8 months now since my first contact on here when my girlfriend had her breast removed, as some of you know we did break up not long after that, I tried to help her after that but we now have very little contact, I am now in another relationship and have learnt a great deal more about breast cancer and the help from all of you guys was great, a big THANK YOU. I will still put up a post from now and then.

Cheers

Micky.

Hi Dean, Thank you and I know that you are trying to help, but there is a lot to this story that I can not put out here, I have been fighting for her, for the last 12 months, I now have to think of myself, you can only fight so much. Micky

Hi Dean, Thank you and I know that you are trying to help, but there is a lot to this story that I can not put out here, I have been fighting for her, for the last 12 months, I now have to think of myself, you can only fight so much. Micky

Well Micky you can only do your best and it seems you have.I'd like to wish you the best for your future and hope that your lady friend has a long and happy life.Keep us posted on your future and remember you are never alone.Clay..

Hi Simon, thank you, someone has told me I can feel this way, I was starting to think that I was wrong for feeling this way, I am so confussed and she has made it quite clear now that this relationship is over, I now understand after looking at all that has happened, for a relationship to work after such a trauma as what she has gone through, it needed to be strong and I now believe ours was not, I am not perfect , but I tried to handle this the best way I could, but everything I did or said was wrong, we already had problems and with this on top it fell apart, I will try and deal with this the best way I can, I believe she did not want to work on it, as much as I did. Thanks again and I will call you.

Micky

Hi Micky,

I have a slightly different view to the others.  You have every right to feel the way you do.  Your life has been turned upside down too!  I can appreciate the pain you feel, and unfortunately you cannot change how she feels or how she chooses to deal with it.  All you can do is change how you feel and the meaning you give to what has happened.  You don't need to be strong for anyone!  You just need to be you!  This is one of the hardest lessons we all need to learn.  Of course where we can we step up and do all we can to smooth the ride, but, ultimately it is up to each individual as to how they deal with the trauma that comes with this terrible disease.

Can this relationship be saved?  Well do you want to  work at it?  Does she want to work on it?  Right now is not the time to ask or answer this question.  She is most likely in mourning and needs time to greive and so do you!  So like everyone else we are here to help you, if only to give you a chance to just vent or speak to others who share a common experience.  Add my number to your list 0407 759 238.  

Most of all Micky take care of yourself and remember you are not alone.

Simon

Thanks Scotty, right now it feels good to know that. Micky

I hope your coffee goes well with iclay, but we are all here for you.

Chin up

Scotty.....

Hi Dean, thank you, that is our problem I  am trying to spend some time with her, but she will not come to me and for reasons I can not go into on here It is hard for me to go to her, I did call you and left a message, so I hope to talk to you so I can try and understand this. Micky