Men Who Care

Hi Micky,

I have a slightly different view to the others.  You have every right to feel the way you do.  Your life has been turned upside down too!  I can appreciate the pain you feel, and unfortunately you cannot change how she feels or how she chooses to deal with it.  All you can do is change how you feel and the meaning you give to what has happened.  You don't need to be strong for anyone!  You just need to be you!  This is one of the hardest lessons we all need to learn.  Of course where we can we step up and do all we can to smooth the ride, but, ultimately it is up to each individual as to how they deal with the trauma that comes with this terrible disease.

Can this relationship be saved?  Well do you want to  work at it?  Does she want to work on it?  Right now is not the time to ask or answer this question.  She is most likely in mourning and needs time to greive and so do you!  So like everyone else we are here to help you, if only to give you a chance to just vent or speak to others who share a common experience.  Add my number to your list 0407 759 238.  

Most of all Micky take care of yourself and remember you are not alone.

Simon