Good questions! I elected to not have a reconstruction, and remain mono boobed 4 years after surgery. As I am reasonably large breasted, I wear a prosthesis. It's simple, easy to wear, and I don't think about it much at all. I never really warmed to a reconstruction, and as I had seroma problems, I increasingly was wary of further surgery. My breast surgeon was at pains to let me know I could change my mind in the future. I am older than you but look younger than I am, and my appearance was and is important to me. I have never found being mono boobed a problem. Last year at a public hot tub in Iceland I stripped off and showered pre soak with a bunch of other women 10 - 60! It felt good too! it's just not an issue for me, my husband or anyone else. I know many women feel the loss acutely, as you say, each to their own and all support and best wishes to those who choose reconstruction. I just wasn't one of them. Best wishes for whatever you choose.
