Well after being recalled to breastscreen for further testing i was given the news that I had breast cancer on the 3rd Sept 2013...oh my what a brick wall i hit:) So this is how my "journey" started ....now after a few tests and a visit with a surgeon I'm off for a "Bilateral Mastectomy" which is happening next tues. I dont have any doubts about doing this but my head sometimes strays and negative thoughts creep in....so i think I'm just needing some reassurance from those who have been through it especially those who did not have reconstructive surgery straight away. Thanks and am looking forward to your comments:)

I was diagnosed on the 2nd September,and had my mastectomy on the 17th.it was my first time ever in a hospital,and I was pretty damm scared.anyway,the ladies on here reassured me that it was very doable,and do you know what?- it was.i came home after 3 days,and the pain was minimal.sleeping on my back was the hardest thing for me.im not sure how much harder it will be with a bilateral,but I'm sure it would have its own challenges.i wish you all the best,and I have found that reading what I can,and talking on this site,has really helped me.

Sorry about your bc diagnosis but welcome to this network. I've had bc twice and the last time was in 2010 when I had a left mastectomy. I was high on pain killers when my dressing came off and I looked at my chest.I recommend this cos I seemed quite ok about it ,which really surprised me.I was in hospital for 3 days and came home with a drain in. The pain wasn't too bad cos your chest ends up being numb.The drain will be a pain and a nuisance but usually comes out a week later.I haven't had any reconstruction,just use a prosthesis in a mastectomy bra.I got fitted for it about 6 weeks post op.Have you had the Berlei bra and soft forms ordered for you from this network?I'm not ruling out recon cos I don't like being lopsided but I'm in no hurry.Blog back here if you have any questions.We all support each other at this network cos we know what you are going through. sending hugs, Tonya xx

It is very scaring. I found that some people turn your back on you. Other people have been great. You go through every emotion so good to talk about it with your loved ones. I have just finished treatment. Now I wait if the cancer is goe or not

I had my bilateral mastectomy on Sept 10 although I also had immediate reconstruction. So my experience isn't quite the thing you want to hear about. However I do want to let you know that three weeks out of my op I am feeling better than I thought I would. I do not miss my old breasts as I considered them my enemy and what had made me sick in the first place. Whether you decide on reconstruction or not, you will be amazed at how well you will do when you think that you are getting rid of the BC. It is tough, I'll not gloss over that but very doable as you'll hear from lovely ladies here. I never thought of myself as particularly strong but I have found my inner strength and with the help of your family and the wonderful support from our amazing Pink Sisters, you will find your strength too. Love and hugs to you Janey xxx

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18 Replies

Chixon
Member
12 years ago
I am on the count down to my bilateral mastectomy on the 27th June. Am trying to stay positive ...I think I will be happy to have the cancer out ...will just have to wait for the pathology results....I feel so vulnerable. Not sure how long the hospital stay is?? I suppose it depends on an individual surgeon. Please keep me in your thoughts on Friday... it has been a blessing for me to have this connection and to read your stories. I agree that you have to keep your sense of humour. I mentioned to my husband as I have only small breasts it won't take long in theatre..so my recovery will be a lot quicker. He has been my ROCK.. My thoughts and prayers are with you all as we face this cancer journey. Xxx
AntheaM
Member
12 years ago
Hi

I had my bilateral 7 weeks ago. I am not having reconstruction.I found the surgery to be virtually painless, I only needed occasional Panadol. I had 18 nodes removed as well. I stayed in hospital for 4 days as my surgeon doesn't like to discharge with drains in. A few days after discharge I went to her office and she aspirated out some fluid with a needle. This did not hurt at all as you end up being quiet numb. I have had this done another 3 times.

I had the most amazing breast care nurse who gave me a really good piece of advice on the first morning after my op. My husband was visiting and she asked if we had "looked" and we said no. She said we should do it now as the bruising etc would develop and it would look worse in a couple of days. We looked it was fine, just a flatish chest with two strips of dressing. But she was right it looked much worse later.

The only discomfort I felt was when the fluid would build up between syringings, and that just felt like you were wearing a tight bra.

all the best x
AntheaM
Member
12 years ago
Hi

I had my bilateral 7 weeks ago. I am not having reconstruction.I found the surgery to be virtually painless, I only needed occasional Panadol. I had 18 nodes removed as well. I stayed in hospital for 4 days as my surgeon doesn't like to discharge with drains in. A few days after discharge I went to her office and she aspirated out some fluid with a needle. This did not hurt at all as you end up being quiet numb. I have had this done another 3 times.

I had the most amazing breast care nurse who gave me a really good piece of advice on the first morning after my op. My husband was visiting and she asked if we had "looked" and we said no. She said we should do it now as the bruising etc would develop and it would look worse in a couple of days. We looked it was fine, just a flatish chest with two strips of dressing. But she was right it looked much worse later.

The only discomfort I felt was when the fluid would build up between syringings, and that just felt like you were wearing a tight bra.

all the best x
Melanie_Durdle
Member
12 years ago
Humour is how I dealt with my cancer journey. You have to deal with it the best way you know how. Keep your spirits up.
Melanie_Durdle
Member
12 years ago
Humour is how I dealt with my cancer journey. You have to deal with it the best way you know how. Keep your spirits up.
Melanie_Durdle
Member
12 years ago
Humour is how I dealt with my cancer journey. You have to deal with it the best way you know how. Keep your spirits up.
Melanie_Durdle
Member
12 years ago
Humour is how I dealt with my cancer journey. You have to deal with it the best way you know how. Keep our spirits up.
Melanie_Durdle
Member
12 years ago
Humour is how I dealt with my cancer journey. You have to deal with it the best way you know how. Keep our spirits up.
Melanie_Durdle
Member
12 years ago
Humour is how I dealt with my cancer journey. You have to deal with it the best way you know how. Keep our spirits up.
Sharl
Member
12 years ago
WOW....i can't thank you all enough:) It is truely inspiring to read your comments. Yes I do feel my breasts have betrayed me and they are the enemy just like you Janey so am feeling quite 'pumped' about them going. But i guess the hard part will come in the following months once reality hits and I know what further treatment I will need etc.

I received my berlei bra and cotton prothesis today and it gave me a good laugh...here i was thinking i was going to get rid of my huge bust and bra but they look about the same size lol I think my breast care nurse must have recommended the wrong size and the thought of pulling the stuffing out and possibly being lopsided made me laugh even more.

I'm sorry if I offend anyone with my sense of humour but its whats getting me through this:)

Keep the comments coming it is lovely to know there are others out there!!