Husband not coping

@Brownowl that is fantastic news.  You can now concentrate on your healing.  Sending hugs xxx

Hey @Locksley. Thank you for checking in. Things have gotten better since I posted. He has the support of some good friends and we’re getting into a routine with treatment. The drinking has gotten a lot better and he is providing me with lots of support. xo 

Hi @Brownowl Just checking in  to see how you are travelling.  Has hubby received some support.

Thanks @Anne65. Great idea about the nurses. I’ll look into it.

Things have become better since Christmas and we’ve had some lovely days together as a family.  

@Brownowl Hoping you are going OK & that family life is improving. You have been given some wonderful advice above so hope this has all helped. 
Not sure if you have enlisted the aid of a McGrath Breast Care nurse to help you through your treatment/recovery. I did & found her help,advice & support invaluable & all for free! We would email or ring each other when I had a silly question to ask or she would contact me to see how i was going. She also visited me personally when she was in my area.
When i first started seeing her, she said that her service was not only for me but for ANY family member/relative/friend who had questions, concerns & wasnt coping with my diagnosis. She was wonderful & these nurses offer free counselling for any relative. i wondered if this may be of help to you as it wouldn't be as confronting as going to see a GP/counselor/psychologist at their rooms when she could possibly come to your home. If it was included in a support visit for you, then your husband could speak to her during the visit & maybe your daughter too.
I hope you stay strong & positive for you as you need to look after number one & care for your daughter. I know it is hard for family looking on as they often feel helpless in this situation & your husband maybe reliving his own cancer journey but that is no excuse for not supporting you through yours. If anything, he should know how you feel & he may not mean it, but his actions are a little selfish when you need his support. Sending love, strength & prayers to you & be kind to yourself xxxx

Hard yards!
Hopefully in a sober light the message gets through.  
Best wishes as you navigate treatment 

So sorry to hear about everything. I have a husband who relies on alcohol waaayyy too much. It is incredibly stressful having to deal with his drunk behaviour then have him deny it all when he’s sober. 

I agree. Today was another better day all round. Things are looking up. 😊

If it gets too hard (emotionally) my husband retreats and I feel as though I don't exist. Any emotion or change in the slightest routine means he's not available to help me with my needs. Its tough! VERY. I have a couple of friends whose husbands have similar traits and I can phone them for a good scream or sob. Over the years I've found talking with a Cancer Council nurse or counselor  has helped me stay sane. I realised a long time ago that its up to me to figure out how to negotiate my way through often barren and sometimes hostile territory - I have learned through experience to be very clear about my needs, eg, help with a shower or preparing a meal, I find I have to be very precise about my needs and his role, eg,' I am very tired today and need help with ......................, can you help me with this? Tell him your needs and his role. Again, this is tough and I need to remind myself that strong emotions must feel like facing Tyrannosaurus Rex. Stay in touch.

@Brownowl Just sending a massive hug your way. I agree with what was said above. Look after yourself lovely.