Husband not coping
Does anyone have any advice dealing with a husband who is not dealing with a diagnosis? He’s leaning on me for emotional support and has spent most of the holidays drunk (he was a heavy drinker before...
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If it gets too hard (emotionally) my husband retreats and I feel as though I don't exist. Any emotion or change in the slightest routine means he's not available to help me with my needs. Its tough! VERY. I have a couple of friends whose husbands have similar traits and I can phone them for a good scream or sob. Over the years I've found talking with a Cancer Council nurse or counselor has helped me stay sane. I realised a long time ago that its up to me to figure out how to negotiate my way through often barren and sometimes hostile territory - I have learned through experience to be very clear about my needs, eg, help with a shower or preparing a meal, I find I have to be very precise about my needs and his role, eg,' I am very tired today and need help with ......................, can you help me with this? Tell him your needs and his role. Again, this is tough and I need to remind myself that strong emotions must feel like facing Tyrannosaurus Rex. Stay in touch.