Welcome to the blog, @hillies2 - not that you want to be here - but you'll find the support & tips that should help you thru, from those who've been there, done that! Ask away ANY questions that you have - someone will help with a useful answer.
Where abouts (roughly - i.e. town or city) do you live - we may have members nearby who can point you to specific areas of support that they've already found useful.
Fingers crossed it is not in the nodes - they won't know until they get all the pathology back after the lumpectomy, which once again takes a while! (My results came back over 2 weeks ..... so a bit more prolonged again!)
The waiting is really the PITS!! Keep yourself busy between now & your surgery, doing what you love doing - I went fishing every day leading up to mine! LOL
I was diagnosed this time last year (5th Jan to be exact) and had my surgery on Jan 17th after my surgeon came back from holidays (many health professionals take 3-4 weeks off over Xmas/New Year.) So I had breast conserving surgery (another name for lumpectomy where the surgeon does a really tidy job so there is very little scarring or mis-shaping.) Then rads & am now on Hormone Inhibiting Tablets for up to 5 years.
Have you discussed with your surgeon re going public or private for your surgery? If going Private, there can be some savage 'out of pocket expenses ..... I went private for my surgery & public for rads (at no cost) & it is up about the $6000 mark! :( There is a LOT of stuff that Health Funds don't cover - specifically the gaps in surgeon's fees & what the health fund will pay out - plus other 'gaps' - I even had a $500 gap in my pathology (which surprised me!)
Maybe start grabbing stuff for your surgery - you will probably stay in overnight - so a front opening nightie (so it is easier to show the surgeon the next day!) Also grab some ear plugs & an eye mask (like you get on airlines) cos hospitals are noisy bright places, 24/7! A small log shaped pillow will help with supporting the affected arm, specially as you sleep - sometimes you Breast Care Nurse will put you onto one of these - check with her. Also, Berlei provide a 'post op' soft bra with no wire for support - or some people go with the 'Ahaa' Bra!! Just pull over your head (tho the Berlei one does up from the front, for ease of wearing.)
@SoldierCrab will put up a heap of info to help you navigate your way around the site .....
In the mean time, try not to use Dr Google - it will only confuse you, as every one is different & has different procedures & outcomes.
I hope you have supportive friends & family to lean on during this surgery period - if anyone offers to cook you some meals or do some housework, say YES PLEASE! If they don't - delegate your family members! ;) You may not be feeling up to it for a day or so after the op - and there is a 'no heavy lifting' stage as well, for up to a couple of weeks. ......
Take care, just take one day at a time & you'll get thru this! xx