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3boysmum
8 years agoMember
How do i deal with this
Hi all. I only joined this group today but was diagnosed with BC in January this year. I had a mastectomy and 20 lymph nodes removed from left hand side. Cancer was in 8. I have been through 6 months of chemo and am a visit no 7/25 for radiation. My marriage has broken down, i have our 3 sons living with me. I have a casual job (which i love) as i am financially stuffed. My husband lost his job a couple of years ago, we ended up having to sell our home of 17 years which broke my heart and he bought a business using the majority of the money. The business has pretty much failed leaving me with nothing at 48 years of age. I am desperate to get a full time job but until radiation is done that isn't possible. My kids are all working and help out but it is a struggle. I am just so scared the cancer is still there somewhere. My surgeon is confident she got it all but at the end of the day it's in my system. How do i deal with this? Sorry for the long whingy post.
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- 3boysmumMemberThanks so much everyone. You are all just beautiful souls. @iserbrown yes i know but i really need to be in a better financial state so myself and the boys can really enjoy the break. Two of them have recently started new jobs and wouldn't be able to get leave. Will definitely investigate though!!
- iserbrownMember@Unicornkisses that is gorgeous what you just said that the forum helped immensely
@3boysmum as the saying goes we're all in this together and there's experience and support on the forum. @socoda has suggested the free holiday option The Otis Foundation. It's a wonderful opportunity to relax and rejuvenate.
Take care - UnicornkissesMemberI had so much support and love from everyone on here when I was desperate @3boysmum, I just hope I can pass some of it on to you too, it was what kept me sane through all this.
- 3boysmumMemberThanks you @Mira.xx
- 3boysmumMemberThanks so much @Unicornkisses. I need to see my gp in a week or so and will definitely ask. You are a treasure.x
- MiraMemberHey 3 boysmum, I don't have any advice but just wanted to send you some love. You aren't alone in here. :)
- UnicornkissesMember@3boysmum I Will leave the number for the counselling service on your timeline, but yes, you can ring Gosford hospital and ask for the counselling service.
ROC Gosford have a counsellor but I think you have to pay for it.
The other way you can do it is to go to your GP arrange a chronic care management plan and then you can organise allied health visit referrals at the same time.
It resets in January though, and you have to redo it with your GP. You get 5 per year.
I have one in place and have seen a dietitian and a exercise physiologist. You still have to pay but Medicare will then cover part of it. Cost will depend on who you see, so you would then have to ring each one and ask them before the referral is written.
My GP has a dietitian at their practise and it was bulk billed on the Care plan, no cost to me.
The exercise physiologist was at the Mariners Centre at Tuggerah and it cost $85 with a Medicare rebate, I think I will find a different one next year.
I also plan to include a podiatrist visit next year.
You get 5 allied health visits covered fully or partially per year. Some of them can be a psychologist.
But it is a bit confusing.
I would ask your GP about it for other people you might want to see.
If you just go to Sue or Kaitlin at the Gosford Public it is simple and straightforward. I go to Kaitlin and love her. And they are very familiar with the issues of Cancer Patients as it is in the Cancer Centre.
Let me know if you don't find the number on your timeline.
Jennie - 3boysmumMemberThanks @socoda. I will look into this. I really can't afford to do anything at the moment though. Maybe when i snag a fulltime job!! Thanks again.xx
- 3boysmumMemberThanks @Unicornkisses. I am going through the ROC at Gosford. I had my chemo at Nth Gosford private but they don't have a psychologist service. Do i just ring Gosford Hospital and ask reception?
- UnicornkissesMember@3boysmum, it sounds like you are going through the private radiology clinic? You can though use the psychologists at Gosford Public Hospital, it is free and you can go as often and as long as you need to. I don't think I needed a referral. I go there, even though I have most of my treatment through the private system. The breast care nurses are also based there and you can see them at the same time if you want to.