Tough Old Chicky Award
Zoffiel
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I'd like to nominate my friend Ms M for the inaugural Tough Old Chicky award. Ms M, at 88 and following a formal BC diagnosis a week ago, had a mastectomy this morning and tells me she feels fine. Except the tea is shite.
We are never sure what goes on beneath the surface but this lady, who has seen more than her fair share of adversity, is an inspiration. Dry and erudite, she has taught me heaps about accepting what you can't change. With grace. Lessons about how to do the best you can with what you have and concentrate on what you do well.
I'll take her decent tea tomorrow.
We are never sure what goes on beneath the surface but this lady, who has seen more than her fair share of adversity, is an inspiration. Dry and erudite, she has taught me heaps about accepting what you can't change. With grace. Lessons about how to do the best you can with what you have and concentrate on what you do well.
I'll take her decent tea tomorrow.
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I long ago gave up any hope of emulating tough old ladies. My mother managed to crack jokes and be charming in spite of a fused spine, legs that didn't work, arthritic hands, AF, a hernia and a host of other bits and pieces. A lot of unpleasant things happened in her life and all I ever heard her talk about was how lucky she was. She stopped living, as I always expected, when she was good and ready, which turned out to be nearly 94. I hope I've learned something but I'll never manage it with the same intrinsic authenticity.8
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@Zoffiel
Please tell Ms M we are all proud of her ! She is one brave lady and I am not sure I'd want to go through it at her age. There is no God.
As for the cup of tea - that is just what my Mum would say. Mum also hated being given tea in a plastic mug at the hospital. Tell her my Mum actually threw a cold hard crumpet at the back of the tea lady one time !
Give her hugs from us
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I'm constantly in awe of older ladies, their drive and their ability to battle on. Truly inspirational. I'm 39yo and had my fair share of adversity and I feel that a lot from mine and younger generations are spoiled, entitled and plain soft. Don't get me wrong, I can cry and melt down with the best of 'em but I don't expect others to sook and baby me or do things for me when I can do it for myself. More than once during treatment I've been told I'm very stoic. I hope I'm like your 'tough old chicky' friend @Zoffiel2
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Decent cuppa! Makes all the difference!1
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Remarkable women - maybe harsher times taught them to appreciate what they had and to savour the moment1
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A decent cup of tea is how I showed everyone I was home from the hospital today so I totally get this ladies woes. How brave she is going through such a surgery at her age. I wish her only the very best for a good recovery xx Lesley
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Tough Chucky's like her are what inspires me. My Mum was one and if I have half her strength, I think I'm doing well. Tell your friend best wishes from me, too. And enjoy that cuppa!1
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She is doing very well. Bounced back like a lithe rubber band. She's decided to not chase any more treatment and to wait and see what happens.
She called in a couple of days ago so we could finalise things like the font for her book and she made me feel about 110 years old! Sitting cross legged on my couch (I'm as stiff as a board and sort of fall on to it and lie down) and complaining because her local pool was 10 minutes late opening which put her whole schedule for the day behind. She turned 89 a few weeks ago...
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I can't be the only one that thinks having a schedule when you are 89 would be wonderful. I have times when I seem besieged by people who assume I am retired or dying to do so (they probably push rubbing kale on body parts too!!) and I can't think of too many things that are less desirable. Things to do, places to be, people to meet! Sounds good to me.4
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Definitely an inspiration to us all, old or young. I'm 71 yrs and find it tough going at times, but I have to agree that a good cup of tea makes all the difference.1
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It must be a maturity and grace about 80 yr age group. I had one in my hospital stay who was much the same. Fiercely independent too although she did have a very patient carer.
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The era of just getting on with it. And yes...hospital tea is shite...especially in those plastic mugs. Blerrk..0
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Well, I'm back to loose leaf tea after reading there is plastic in some tea bags. What a woman and what a life she has probably had. Good on her.0
