My baby has breast cancer

Hi and welcome to the site. I read this and started to cry my heart goes out to you. Going through my own trip I have always had this fear for my daughter as her grandmother on her fathers side had bc and now my trip. I'm terrified for her. Your daughter is so lucky she has you to be there for her. This site is safer to ask questions than dr google there is alot of crap out there.Have a list of questions for doc or the breast care nurse Good luck on Monday try and take it one day at a time Sending you both hugsxx

I can't  imagine your anguish over your daughter, even though most of us on here have had BC I think watching your child go through this is going to be one of the hardest things you will do. Having said that, now the statistics are very good for quite a few of us, & there are so many new drugs available both to treat the cancer & to help with side effects from those life saving drugs. It's going to be a rough ride, so buckle up ! Get on here to ask questions  or even to have a moan........we all do,  even years on !

Stay strong.

Carmel

Thank you ladies I have struggled with it all,even reading the stories on here as me bursting into tears( yep I'm a sook lol) I guess because its all still so new, but if I'm welcome to chat here I'm sure you will all help us through it 

Thanks so much 

Great big hugs to you.   I am the baby although not quite as young as your daughter.   Earlier this year my mum had a mammogram and had to go back for more tests she was fine and a few months later I was not fine.  I know she has found it hard and she has said it would have been better and easier if it was her.  But she has been the best support for me and come to all my chemo and any appointments that I asked her to come to and helped with my little boy.  You just have to tell her how much you love her and be there for her. We are much all so much stronger than we think and with your support she will find all the strength she needs to make it through this tough time.  Big hugs to her too.

Love Emma Xx

Thanks for coming to this site, I hope that we can give both you and your daughter some support. It is so much like being in a fog when this first process begins, and finding out the extent of the damage is worse again. Please keep checking in to the site, as you'll get lots of support and advice along the way. Just take it 1 appointment at a time, and take a notepad and pen into the appointment with you,so that you can get your questions answered, and can write it all down to refer back. Feeling for you and sending you all a big cuddle, Trace ????

Hi there

Of course you are scared. It's a scary thing. I always said I was glad it was me and not one of my kids.  One thing to be grateful for is that your GP took it seriously and persevered with testing. I have met a couple of young women in my travels who were told they couldn't possibly have cancer because they were too young and by the time they were finally diagnosed they were stage 4. 

The other girls are right. All you can do is take one day at a time. Write down your questions for the doctors and if necessary write the answers down so that you can go over them again later. Get a my journey kit for your daughter and you can both read it. It has lots of useful information. The early days of the unknown are particularly hard. It's ok to cry, be angry and upset. Try to be honest with your feelings.  There will be times that you will feel completely useless but trust me, just being there counts for a lot. Accept any help you are offered and remember that this illness will take it's toll on the people surrounding your daughter as well. Look after yourself as she is going to need you. I wish you, your daughter and your family all the best. Karen xox

I don't know what to say or write except you are in the right place to express.  I couldn't imagine my daughter is 22 and I'm 50 it's me with the breast cancer.  This shouldn't happen it isn't fair. My sincere love xxx Anytime you need feel comfortable here I know there are some pages for young people going through this your daughter is probably trying to digest this info right now it's huge for those of us that are older neverlone at that young age xxx  lots of informed people on here that will help xxx 

You are in the right place!

My name is Ann-Marie and I am the Online Community Coordinator at BCNA.

We are here to support both you and your daughter and provide you with as much information as you need.

~ Ann-Marie x

Hi , one cannot begin to imagine what you guys are going through, us ladies have been there but under different circumstances. Why don't you join the young womens group. Or join for your daughter and you can chat with other young woman and show her that there other young woman out there too. We ladies can also be your support. Fire away ask questions or just vent to us. Love and hugs to you. Adean

Hi Scared Mum,

I think reading your post, brings all of us back to our initial diagnosis and we are all feeling for you.  I guess thats the benefit of this site, rather than listening to well meaning people around you.

The only advice I would offer anyone is that there are so many different 'types' of breast cancer. So not everyone is the same, nor are the treatment plans when you are hearing different stories. That was 1 big lesson for me.

The other thing I would say, encourage her to read only the positive stories of successful outcomes like Kylie Minogue, Olivia Newton John and Sally Obermeder and many other non-famous people on this site. Thinking positively and blowing away negative thoughts is crucial to your wellbeing. I use positive thinking meditation which calls the chemo chair the 'healing chair'. 

And finally, only read up to what stage you are at in your path. Dont read ahead - its too scary. Taking bite sized portions of information meant for you at the right time is also manageable.

Sending you and your baby big hugs.

xx