Hi everyone. I've noticed that when I attend support groups all the women are at least 10+ yrs older than myself with at least teenaged, if not older, children. My children are aged 10, 6 & 1. I was ...
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I live in an area which has the nickname 'gods waiting room' - many retirees. At support group or other BC activities I feel I am also 10 years but usually 20 years younger. Most of the other ladies talk about how it will affect their grandchildren who don't live with them yet I have a 3 yr old and a 6 yr old. We are at different life stages so therefore have different concerns. I don't feel supported as most are post treatment too whilst I'm still in chemo. Yet I find they are more internalised i.e. have time to sit on the couch & ponder why me/negatively. Whilst my kids & keeping up with life keep me too busy for that. Sadly I find they aren't interested in hearing me as too focused on expressing themselves, I get ignored or spoken over. My husband said to me this week not to go as I just end up more frustrated afterwards than getting something out of it. I didn't go and for me it allowed me to see how relieved I felt by that. I've realised that it's ok not to do support group even if others (you trust) are strongly pushing that's it's the best thing to do. I'm finding more useful alternatives - online support & a regular gentle yoga class not the BC yoga class.
Thanks for letting me tell my experience even though I don't live near you - I just wanted to show how great & useful your support group would be. Good on you, hope it comes together