What The Heck Radiation and Chemo? What to do and the side effects, are freaking me out.
In July, I had a mastectomy with lymph nodes out, then they found cancer somewhere else in the body with completely no relation to the breast cancer. If the breast cancer wasn't enough. So, now I have to deal with the other cancer site, which is colorectal, and I have just had an appointment with the radiation and chemo doctors at Royal Brisbane Women's, and I don't mind admitting I'm freaking out. The side effects of the 50/50 cure seem to be so much worse than the actual disease. Yes, I know that the disease, if left to run riot, equals, you know. But, after all these years of funding and funding, why do we not have something better? It's so weird that since my surgery, I have had posts popping up on my socials left right, and centre. Like the "Cure from Japan with Bee Venom" seriously makes me want to find a hive and fly into one with wanton abandon. A "Breakthrough in South Korea, scientists can turn cancer cells back to normal cells," .. Say WHAT? (frantically looking up flights to S Korea) Then there is Ivermectin, Febendazole, and something blue? I mean, I have never paid attention to these things before, but now, my ears prick to the slightest twitch and rustle, like a kid who hears a lolly bag open within a 10-mile radius. I can't help it, I am confused about everything, am I the only one? When I confronted the chemo doctor about all of my concerns and questions, he said If you don't do this, you will be in palliative care in 3 months .. What, hang on what the heck???? I mean, just like that, he said that without any pause or thought, I was never advised that before, and then said, "Whatever you decide, we start therapy on the 28th July, and proceeded to walk out. This journey is brand new; everything has happened since July, and it is no lie, akin to riding a faulty wooden roller coaster with loose nuts, bolts, and rotting timber, operated by a maniacal, crazy clown, in the middle of a thunderstorm, who looks like he has been dragged through a hedge backwards. Just to clarify, the clown is the cancer. I have questions, a thousand of them, with no end of these questions in sight. Where are the natural alternative therapies, like, singing bowls, or is humming drums? What about the milk from an Aztec goat? Yeah, or the petals from a rare flower that only grows on top of some hidden temple in the Amazonian forest, which, on recent reading, is currently swarming with giant anacondas in a breeding frenzy, ugh! Ok, I made up the goat and flowers. No, there is only radiation and chemo. Sigh! I don't know what to do with this option. I have been told my cycle will be 28 days straight of radiation with chemo. I can look forward to a burning bum hole, diareah, burnt skin, possible issues with legs and bladder, and kidneys, and all sorts of other stuff. However, I was told that everyone is different and responds differently. Well, I have to say I don't feel that comforted at all. I am overwhelmed. If anyone can share with me their experience with radiation and chemo, I would love to hear from you. And if anyone knows where I can get my hands on an AZTEC goat in Brisbane, I would love that too!! Goats are ravenous but cute.
Mastectomy /post surgery pillow
Hi all, I have a brand new mastectomy pillow that I found really helpful that is basically as new. I would be really happy to post it to anyone that is about to have surgery at no cost. I just can’t bear to throw it away and would be happy for it to help someone else! Just dm me with your address if you would like it. I’ve attached some photos x
Mastectomy/Diep flap reconstruction - What to prepare for
Hello, I am heading into hospital shortly for a Mastectomy with a DIEP flap reconstruction at same time. I am starting to prepare everything now, ie stocking freezer, ensuring I have everything at home ready and staying to look at what to pack for my stay in hospital (5 days). My Plastic Surgery has asked that I bring in post op bra and if I have spanx or similar bring that in. The bra was no issue I got ones from Kmart and Berlei. In terms of compression pants, I am at a lose. So much on the market, Any recommendations, do I go for underwear type, shorts or just stomach ones. I would be grateful for any tips.
Going flat after implant rapture
Hi All I had a bilateral mastectomy 8 years ago with expanders and silicone implants (aged 48 at that time). Here I am 8 yrs on and find I have had a implant rapture and now have silicone in my axillary, clavicle and chest lymph nodes. Rapture likely 12 mths ago due to spread of silicone, that is why its called a silent rapture. I had the mastectomy to not live in fear of getting breast cancer (as my mother had it twice) and I had a young son. Here I am now living in fear of what the silicone toll will take. Have received advice and can do reconstruction but would need to use flap under arm area as well as implants as the skin is thin due to expanders from first reconstruction for a swap out or I am thinking go flat. Going flat will prevent the fear of further possibly of another rapture and more silicone in my system. If I had have been told 8 yrs ago I could have the mastectomy to prevent cancer but they cant reconstruct I would have still had the mastectomy so I am coming to terms with the flat chest option. Has anyone on this forum had reconstruction with implants then gone flat later? Any advice, regrets, experience with prostheses double breasts at all?
Experience with suction/negative pressure dressings
So last Thursday I had a bilateral "Goldilocks" mastectomy - it's Tuesday now, so today is the fifth day post-op. I had three nights in hospital and was discharged on Sunday, and every day has felt like a battle with these dressings. It's a system called Prevena that puts a foam layer over the sutures, and then a plastic dressing over that so that the attached pump can then apply a gentle vacuum. Even in hospital, every day has brought patches to the edges to try and maintain a seal. It holds if I'm sitting down but the moment I stand up, the pump goes off, and I hear a little whistle from a new leak somewhere in the dressing. It's getting pretty frustrating - I can't shower without it going off and even just doing a wash at the basin triggers leaks. And forget going for 'gentle walks' - I want to, but not if the dressing's going to leak the whole damn way. I'm due to have them removed on 9 December, so six more days with them. If I thought I was happy to have drains removed, that'll probably be nothing compared to the joy of getting rid of these dressings. Has anyone else had experience with suction/negative pressure dressings like this?
Decision
I have been diagnosed a second time the first was DCIS 3.5yrs ago, had a lumpectomy without radiation or chemo. Cancer has now returned in the milk duct 2mm. I am having surgery soon was given choice of total mastectomy or total nipple and aerola removal. His recommendation was mastectomy, I have chosen the later. Now wondering if I was offered radiation after the first surgery would I be in this situation now. Also not recommended for radiation after this current one. Not sure if I have made the right decision.
All Clear happy and healthy, BUT pre admission tomorrow for Mastectomy/Recon struggling mentally..
To say its been a tough week, has been an understatement even after a recurrence multiple surgeries and treatments over the past 6yrs. As much as I knew it was coming, I wasnt prepared for the call from Hospital for my pre-admission tomorrow. 19 months on from a lumpectomy, 13 months post chemo, happy, healthy reclaiming my life. The mental torture has been relentless this week, knowing I'm WELL but in light of a recurrence don't gamble Melinda, do a Mastectomy/Diep flap reconstruction. Even knowing deep down its the best thing I could do, I still struggle with the loss, the prevention, the surgery. Its always been my struggle getting to this decision now it is here, I don't feel any different, I'm still struggling with it. I can be honest, I'm scared, petrified of the actual surgery, the recovery, the loss, the end result. Struggling with feeling Im damned if I do, damned if I don't. Maybe I'll feel different once it's done? Ive looked at it every which way possible, and its just so mentally challenging when I know Im so well...the tears havent stopped. I will also be mostly alone through recovery as my kids are going to live with their Dad as its easier for them to get to Uni and my baby in VCE. Whilst its the right thing for me to do...am heartbroken to not have them with me loving and supporting me. My Partner lives an hour away, due to work and life will only be able to manage at different times. Another reminder of traveling this road nearly 7yrs without my Mum, lucky to have my Dad who wants to help but is 77. Inspite of all this, knowing how incredibly lucky am I really!!! how dare I be sad, upset, angry, so why do I struggle, don't know how to resolve this for myself?? I've always been proactive, positive and upbeat...hoping its purely the fear thats getting in the way...
Lumpectomy vs mastectomy
Hey everyone, I finished chemo on the 4/4 and right after the Easter long weekend I was kind of ambushed with an early surgical appointment to sign the consent forms for surgery. I didn’t have my normal support person (my sister) with me and I don’t know how I feel about my decision. To give some context, when I was first diagnosed in October last year my opinion regarding treatment was to go hard and fast and just kill this damned thing so I can move on with my life. The surgeon wanted to initially do a lumpectomy and I refused and asked for a mastectomy. Then on a subsequent appointment once I had gone and done some research I asked the surgeon if he wanted to do a lumpectomy because I was going to have radiation and he said yes, that is would protect my lung tissue to keep the breast tissue. I then asked if I could have a mastectomy after and he said yes. Then in my previous appointment before Easter he said mastectomy and not lumpectomy, and there was a bit of confusion (and I felt I was being gaslit, not a term I use lightly) as I reminded him of what had been discussed previously and he told me I wasn’t in the right frame of mind to be making decisions (I am struggling mentally but with other issues, not the treatment plan as I understood it). So when I got to this new appointment, I tried to explain what had gone on and asked what my MDT had decided. The registrar I saw said they recommended a lumpectomy and clearance of 9 lymph nodes. The way he explained it to me was that it was better they take the most minimally invasive path as I wouldn’t likely get skin and nipple conserving mastectomy. That it was better to take a little with the option of more later rather than taking it all when it’s not considered necessary. I signed the forms at the time after stipulating that if I wanted one later that they could do that and he said without cancer it would be a low priority but yes. A week after this and I don’t know if the decision is sitting right with me- those who have had the lumpectomy and axilla clearance, how did you feel? And did you need to go back later and have revision surgery to take more margins or have the full mastectomy?
Radiotherapy after skin-sparing mastectomy & diep-flap-reconstruction?
Has anyone had radiotherapy done after their skin-sparing mastectomy & diep-flap reconstruction? Did it cause any issues with the breast flap? like hardening or shrinking? I had no lymph node involvement and had clear margins. It was decided in a team meeting with radio oncologist for me to have 5 weeks of radiation on the flap, due to younger age, size of lump (ILC-5cm) - although it was 2 bits lumped together into one and grade 2, pathology of the sample found focal-vascular-space-invasion, which hadn't spread anywhere outside the breast, but radio oncologist thought it could spread to lymph nodes in the future. Does this warrant radiation? I am on zoladex and ai. I have an appointment with the surgeon to discuss further but wanted to see if anyone has any suggestions or similar experience?
A MUST READ IF FACING MASTECTOMY EARLY BREAST CANCER DIAGNOSIS DCIS LCIS
I am writing this letter in the hope that the following story will help anyone facing a mastectomy or an early diagnosis of breast cancer. Women are being diagnosed with breast cancer every day and not all of them are provided with the information required to make informed decisions. A 42 year old mother of one is diagnosed with early breast cancer at a Brisbane Breast Clinic, August 2013. After receiving her diagnosis from a doctor at the centre she is advised by the doctor to make an appointment with her General Practitioner to attain a referral for a surgeon to have the cancer removed. Her referred surgeon performs a lumpectomy and then suggests the best treatment option for her cancer is mastectomy. She believes she has all information required to make a decision and elects to have a mastectomy four days later. SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO A BREAST RECONSTRUCTION AT THE SAME TIME AS MASTECTOMY. SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO A SKIN SPARING MASTECTOMY. SHE IS A POSSIBLE CANDIDATE FOR A NIPPLE SPARING MASTECTOMY. BUT SADLY SHE IS NEVER TOLD! This is the true story of my friend Lisa. She is currently enduring the emotional suffering caused by not being fully informed of her options. I now know that this is not an isolated case as I know many more women are having this same experience in Australia. Six weeks after Lisa's surgery I too went to the same Brisbane Breast Clinic to have a mammogram. I am a 38 years old mother of two, I had no known symptoms or lumps and no strong family history. Lisa's story saved my life. I was diagnosed by the same doctor with early breast cancer and advised to seek a referral from a General Practitioner. Through this experience I discovered that we currently have surgeons in Australia who are using advanced and accepted techniques like skin sparing and nipple sparing mastectomy that can effectively treat cancer without disfigurement. Both types of surgery combined with reconstruction are helping women preserve their breasts in a way that improves their quality of life after receiving a breast cancer diagnosis. I also learnt that the REFERRAL LETTER was the key determinant on whether or not I would be informed of my options. My first treatment recommendation from a surgeon was mastectomy with no reconstruction. A breast reconstruction, Skin sparing and nipple sparing mastectomy were not an option at the same time as mastectomy. My second treatment recommendation offered by a different surgeon was mastectomy with immediate reconstruction, skin sparing and nipple sparing mastectomy. How could two surgeons in Australia have such vast differences in approach to the treatment of early breast cancer and why didn't anyone tell me? I have leant that not all surgeons in Australia are trained nor practice the latest procedures that are widely accepted and used in Europe and America for the treatment of breast cancer. Receiving a diagnosis of breast cancer is one of the toughest moments a women will experience. You feel compelled to make quick decisions. Hence, I can't believe more guidance is not provided when first diagnosed to enable women to select surgeons based on known treatment alternatives. That's why it is so important to have complete, up to date information and know all of your options before you consent to any type of surgery. You are entitled to ask questions. Your breast care nurse will not tell you about known treatment options, nor can they tell you which surgeon to go to - they are not allowed. But if you want to know who performs skin sparing or nipple sparing surgery ask them and they will tell you. If you don't get the answers you need on a particular procedure then keep pushing for information. Keep searching for the information you need until you get the information you beleive that you need to make a decision. On August 17th, 2010 a new law was passed in New York to ensure that breast cancer patients from all socioeconomic groups are informed about their options regarding breast reconstruction. The law mandates that all women are informed, prior to undergoing a mastectomy, about their right to reconstruction and the types of reconstructions that are available, even if this means referring women to another facility or hospital system. This bill went into effect Jan 2011 and already other states are following with similar legislation. Breast cancer patients are being informed of their options and told where to get the procedures they prefer. Surely, in Australia we do not need to legislate or pass a new law to inform women with breast cancer of their options. It's a fact that in Australia, around 5000 women have a mastectomy every year, but only 6% to 12% of these go on to have reconstructions. This compares with 42% of women in the US and 16.5% in England. We need to ask ourselves - is this because when diagnosed with breast cancer women are not being informed and empowered to know all of their treatment options in order to make informed decisions. After being throgh this experience I hope that this information will help anyone who is facing a mastectomy. If you are facing a mastectomy get a second opinion and consult with a plastic surgeon as well as a breast cancer oncologist. Every women deserves to know there options and I am disgusted that women will continue to be blind sighted by certain surgeons, nurses and doctors who do not feel compelled to tell women about certain types of reconstructive surgery. If you are in a remote area of Australia my heart goes out to you. If you are facing a mastectomy it is in your best interest to see a Breast Cancer Oncologist who specialises in Breast Cancer in your nearest city. Knowledge is power. I wish anyone facing a breast cancer diagnosis all the best and I hope that I can prevent what happened to my friend Lisa from happening to anybody else.
