Online / Dating pools for people living with MBC - How…where…what?!
MBC Sisters I need your help…please read ahead of this resonates! I am completely at a loss on how to navigate finding people I’d be interested in dating when I personally feel that the fact I am somebody living with metastatic breast cancer is something anyone I make the effort to go and meet, should already be aware of and be comfortable with, upfront. But, how does the attraction or interest ever have a chance when we are talking about the usual eligible bachelors in the mainstream dating pools? I have come to the conclusion that unless they too are going through something similar and therefore understand how different life is when living with a stage 4/or similar diagnosis. Instead of the usual opportunity of lasting love and growing old together, we are a different kettle of fish when it comes to the regular expectations in this category but that’s all we are…different, Personally, as long as my potential person is in a similar situation which will remove those feelings of guilt or uncertainty for me personally, I think it could be wonderful and not something to be missed out on. Traditional dating websites don’t feel appropriate to me anymore and with my metastatic breast cancer diagnosis a few years ago (after an eight year hiatus), to be honest I had decided this was no longer something I wanted to pursue as it seemed an impossible task so I was comfortable with such a liberating decision that I’ve made for myself at that time. Fast forward to the last 12 months, and I can personally report that life is rather empty without somebody you love/care for to share it all with (however that would look in my new normal reality these days). My metastatic breast cancer diagnosis has in so many ways been isolating and lonely so I’m now trying to change my own narrative if that is at all possible. What I’d love is to meet somebody that’s also in a similar situation where they still have a reasonably normal life aside from the fact that it may end sooner than what was expected. I feel this situation I now find myself in is something that is missing for people who are looking for another chance at love whilst also navigating these challenging set of circumstances within the dating world. So how does one meet somebody I would want to spend time with that just ‘gets it’. This kind of person here in Perth seems like it’s simply out of reach and in the too hard basket which is just so sad. So, if any of you out there have been through it and / has any further insight into this topic I’d love to hear all about it. Thanks loves!