I am so sorry that you have had to go through so much already. I had a mastectomy straight up as my cancer was in two areas and there would have been nothing left with 2 areas to remove. I never really worried about losing the breast as I was more focused on getting rid of the cancer.
I think Jel has put it so well when she says that it was the cancer not the surgery that takes our breast or parts there of.
They can do wonders with reconstruction and there is a terrific group on here that can give you lots of support and info about that. I thought I would want reconstruction but after 7 months of treatment I felt differently. I am now more than 3 years from my surgery and live very happily with one healthy breast and one prosthesis.
It's reassuring to know that there are good options no matter what your situation. The main thing is to get rid of the cancer so you can live a long healthy life. I feel well and healthy now and know that losing a breast was just what I had to do to get to here.
Maybe one day there will be another way but meanwhile I am glad that my cancer was treatable.
Deanne xxx