Removal of remaining breast, no reconstruction

hi im in the same boat as you.I had a mastectomey october 2010 with no reconstruction.I want my remaining breast removed.I feel i look lopsided. I went to my surgeon with my concern and he told me he doesnt want to do it due to my age.Im 41 and he feels i should go for a reconstruction. Though to have this done they have to take muscle and fat from my stomach to build my breast. ive seen scars from this procedu!re and i dont think id be happy with the result.It will also be 2 or 3 surgeries apparantly.and their is a risk the skin and muscle may not surviue! Lordy! So im in a dilema about it.At the moment im researching being able to have a tattoo to cover my scar.Its meant to be painful but im feeling it couldnt be any worse than the prospect of recon.hope u have peace in whatever decision you make. cheers annie x