Hi Emma , I think we r in the identical boat!! Minus me having boys and yourself girls. I must admit when I read your post I read it through teary eyes. I think mostly because having someone with exactly the same experience, fears etc is for one thing sad because u know what they r going through, and secondly the fact that your own emotions r validated. I'm going down to c my surgeons on the 4th of April to discuss my options and to talk about what I should expect. Because I had rays I will have to have a lat dorsi which is using your back muscles, but I'm hoping they can just put a implant on the other side to save cutting into my back twice. I'm nervous that's for sure but like I said to my husband, if it was internal there would b nothing I could do about it. But it's not, it's on the outside so I feel to give me the best outcome and chance of it not coming back, I owe it to myself and my family to through everything at it. I finished my last rays b4 Xmas 2011, so it's been just over 14mths. After I finished everything I said I wasn't doing a recon, but I think it was more to do with having enough of everything!!! Gradually I've grown sick of the high necks and chicken fillets, I'm sure u sympathize!!! So I started firstly with my fitness, I was always a healthy eater, never smoked or drank so I didn't need to change those. So I started boxfit / cross fit , which has been great for not only my fitness but my peace of mind to know that I can get through these next lot of ops. If u want to keep writing that's cool and it does help ALOT . I'll let u know what the docs say, I can barely wait to c them. I'm also having my second yearly mammogram, it will b 2yrs in June since I had the mastectomy . Hopefully that's all ok too.. Love to u and your family .xxxx