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Fernweh
4 years agoMember
Mastectomy this Thursday..
I am booked in for a single mastectomy (followed by chemo and radio) this Thursday. I tried to discuss with my surgeon the possibility of removing both breasts at the same time, one being preventative (as this is what I would really want) but she dismissed it. I have asked again yesterday and she said she wouldn’t do it as it may delay treatment and because of covid, there is a need for beds in hospital.. plus there is double the risk for complications.
While I originally accepted her reasoning, I am now working myself up as I am upset that this option was not fully considered and the reasoning do not make all that sense to me. There are pros and cons of course..
Anyone been in a similar situation and/or had a second mastectomy later? How long after you finished treatment were you able to have another surgery?
I do not want to delay surgery this week, but I also want to do the right thing for myself..
While I originally accepted her reasoning, I am now working myself up as I am upset that this option was not fully considered and the reasoning do not make all that sense to me. There are pros and cons of course..
Anyone been in a similar situation and/or had a second mastectomy later? How long after you finished treatment were you able to have another surgery?
I do not want to delay surgery this week, but I also want to do the right thing for myself..
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- StrongCoffeeMemberGreat to hear your surgery went well. I found the area around the removed lymph nodes (I only had 2 out) caused me the most pain/discomfort for the longest. Surgeons said it's because there's heaps of nerves in your armpits. All the best for a smooth recovery.
- arpieMemberI hate sleeping on my back too!! Somehow, the cushions help, even with that. I was lucky to find this 'pillow' locally ..... hubby likes it too! It has the 'built in' arm rests .... and sometimes I find I sleep better if I am sitting 'up' too (like I do when watching TV! LOL)
Take care, keep up the pain meds for as long as you need to (probably a day or so) and make haste slowly xx - FernwehMemberThank you @arpie! x
I came home yesterday and doing well. The drains on the right side are giving me some grief as they seem to be very close to a nerve, but it is expected as they removed a few lymph nodes there.
I have a beautiful big mastectomy pillow handmade by a lady here in Brisbane, but I am hating having to sleep on my back so will definitely try a regular cushion under my arms (thank you!) - arpieMemberHope you are recovering well, @Fernweh xx.
Are you home yet? I hope you are being royally spoiled xx
Have you got a small oblong cushion to help support your arms, specially at night? I found it uncomfortable if they were just lying by my side ....
take care xx - Cath62MemberGlad you are doing ok @Fernweh. You definitely deserve your rewards. Take care with recovery. 💐
- FLCloverMemberGreat news 😊. So happy to hear it went well and you’re doing ok. Perfectly normal to feel sad about losing the girls. Treat yourself now and rest as you need to. So glad you got your wish ☺️.
- arpieMemberWell done, @Fernweh - grieving for your boobs is totally natural xx Rest up & definitely, get as much room service as you can both now & when you go home xx
Make sure you take your pain meds BEFORE any pain kicks in xx
take care xx - So glad to hear from you, and sounds like you are getting through well enough after your DMX.. Cheering yourself up is the way to go, and that attitude will hold you in good stead :) Rest well when you need, and enjoy the "room service" :)
- FernwehMemberI wanted to thank everyone again for your messages and support last week. I had my DMX this morning and so far feeling pretty good. Got a case of the sad yesterday saying goodbye to the boobs (mainly my partner) and this morning, but been cheering myself up this afternoon with ‘room service’ and some peace and quite 😊
- Where there is a will, there is a way. So pleased you have got a new surgery date. Good you just didn't accept what you have been told, but you have determination, and got some good examples from others that have stood their ground, that is what we can help people with in here. Some members have helped others wade through the bureaucracy, and we have some gutsy members that do not shy away from that. Keep us posted if you would like to.