Hi @Locksley
I had a mastectomy (no reconstruction) over seven years ago. Being big boobed, my first sight of the site (so to speak) was pretty much as I expected - hopelessly lop sided. But lop sided is a term you can live with - if you think of yourself as hideous or deformed, it makes acceptance all that much harder, even if you go for reconstruction. When my daughter was born after a very long labour, I very quickly saw her as normal (even if she was immediately nicknamed ‘my little rocket head’ ) and every other baby on the ward was curiously flat headed! You are what you are - no need for comparisons, no-one else is you. If you love and accept your body, at any time, you set the norm for everyone else. Best wishes.